Episode 6

Turning Trauma into Triumph with Jay Nixon

In today's episode I have with me today Jay Nixon of Thrive Fitness Studio. Jay is an author, mentor, coach, speaker, and podcaster. He lost his farther at a very young age leaving him feeling lost and alone. Tune in to discover how he was able to turn his trauma into triumph and his pain into purpose!

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Transcript
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Hey, Hey, Hey, welcome to today's episode of The becoming

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the big money podcast. It is solopreneurs Saturday and I have

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with me today, Jay Nixon. He is an author and author of the

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purpose of pain. And he is a transformational coach. He is

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helping people completely transformed their lives, giving

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them the tools and techniques they need to turn their tragedy

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into triumph. Hey, Jay, how are you doing today?

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Hey, how you doing? That was beautiful. I can I'm just gonna

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carry you around with me and be like, this is me. Well, I

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am so excited to share your story here. With everyone I know

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that you are living in your purpose helping lift people up

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right now. But before we really get into what's going on with

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you right now, can you just give me a quick synopsis of what has

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brought you to where you are?

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Totally I think what has me living in purpose and on purpose

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today is like the you know, not to start talking about my book

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already. But I had a very traumatic like early childhood.

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My father was killed when I was five years old in a car wreck.

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And then after that, probably for the next 20 years. Every few

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years, I would lose someone really important to me like my

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my grandfather, who was my father figure after my dad then

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my other kind of mentor father figure and then at when I was

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25, my best friend put a shotgun in his mouth and killed pull the

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trigger. And so I live for like 20 to 25 years in this like,

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chaotic world of like, tragedy, if you will. And I didn't really

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know what to do while I was in it. And now that I've kind of

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come out of the other side That's kind of like where I feel

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like my purpose is like to help people because everybody's going

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to go through pain. But they don't have to suffer. You know,

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suffering is optional. And I feel like that my job, my

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purpose, the reason I'm was put on this earth is to take all of

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that stuff, those tragedies, and turn them into triumphant wins

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and show other people how they can do the exact same thing,

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regardless of what they've gone through.

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They can indeed, so when Let's dive back into your childhood a

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little bit when you were losing people close to you, when you

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were losing your father.

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What

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was going through your mind? Like what kind of mental state

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are you in?

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You know what, as a five year old, I think they say that

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between the ages of five and seven is when is when kids

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really start to remember things. They have like childhood amnesia

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before that. But for me, like at five years old, losing my dad,

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like I didn't know how to process it, because I had no

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reference points, you know what I mean? Like at five, you don't,

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you can't say, well, this feels like this, because I've gone

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through it before. So I really didn't understand it. And I went

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through these bouts of like, just when you don't understand

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something, you have to like, put, like, you have to put a

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label on it or put an emotion on it, that may not be correct. So

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I put fear in the place of understanding. And I became

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like, almost like, afraid of things. And through that fear, I

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like didn't know how to handle my emotions. And so I would be

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very, like, just pent up with like anger and misunderstanding

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and those types of things because I didn't know how to

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express myself, you know. So that was kind of how it all

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started. And then as I progressed, you know, through

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those other losses, you know, the same thing I just kept like,

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it was like the universe was piling on top of me, and I

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didn't know how to get out from under it. Because I never

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developed those coping skills as a young child, because my first

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remembrance of anything was this, like, crazy tragedy of

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like, you know, hey, one day my dad's here, the next minute,

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he's not and there's no way to, there's no way to process that

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when you're that young.

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Yeah, how was how was that, um, like, with you and your mom.

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You know, what I did is, um, even though I had my brother six

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years older than me, and this sounds crazy to say, and I know

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most people might not be able to understand this. But as a five

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year old, I almost took on the role of the protector of my

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house, I became very protective of my whole family. So I was

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terrified that my mother was going to die because at five

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years old, you think of what my dad died so easily, then my mom

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might not wake up tomorrow. So I had this fear association with

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like, being close to my mom, I felt like if I get close to my

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mom, and I love her like I'm supposed to, but what if she

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dies, then what am I gonna do? Like, I'm gonna be alone

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forever. So I had these crazy feelings of like, uncertainty

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about like, Am I supposed to love my mom, because if I do,

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and everybody I love dies, then she might die. And so there's

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this crazy dichotomy of like me trying to be like, the protector

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of my mother, but also like, protecting my own emotions and

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my own feelings and hard to process and think that a five

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year old could think that dynamically, but that's what I

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remember of it.

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And growing up, you said, when you're you were 25, when you

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lost your friend by suicide, how would you say like, your

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response to that? Was it different? Or was it similar to

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your response when you were five?

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Definitely. So I conditioned myself. You know, at one point

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when I was about 16 years old, my next door neighbor, who was

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my, my kind of my closest father figure, it was Christmas day, I

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was over at his house, he had a heart attack, I ended up having

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to give him CPR until the ambulance came, and he passed

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away on the way to the hospital. So I was so conditioned by by

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the time that my that shot killed himself that I had these

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walls up of like, I mean, this is just what happens to me, you

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know what I mean? Like, after something happens so many times

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you You almost become numb to it. So I conditioned myself to

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expect death to be around me. So when it happened, yes, you're

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sad, but my emotional ability to like, cry or have those like

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empathy. You know, I mean, like those feelings that you're

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supposed to feel kind of not there because I had like, I felt

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like I just I had cried every tear I could possibly cry for

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everybody I was ever gonna lose, you know what I mean? And so I

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just I almost became numb to the situation.

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You kind of like boxed it out. Totally. But yeah. And so from

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that point, can you start to walk me through like when the

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transition started happening for you,

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you know, was pretty soon after, after my friend Chuck killed

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himself. I started to just you know, that the years and the

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year or two after that, I started to realize that like

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the, the ideals I had about life like this limiting belief that

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life was scarce and it was supposed to be short. And like

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that things were gonna happen to me with such a controlling

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mechanism for my life that I had transitioned into other areas as

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well. Like I would I would push friends away, like, I wouldn't

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allow anybody to get close to me. I didn't want to, I didn't

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fully pour myself into like, my work, because I always felt

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like, Listen, I could I'm probably not gonna be here very

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long. What's the point in like, going all in on a career? What's

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the point in going all in on making money? What's the point

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in going on and on, like, my spirituality or anything, so I

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kind of lived very, you know, day to day for a long time. And

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then I just kept started thinking as I got closer towards

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30 years old, this is not sustainable. Like, I'm not going

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to be able to sustain this from a mental perspective, for very

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much longer, because that was breaking down, just like

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internally, I never shared that with anyone. But on the inside,

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like, I knew that that pattern was going to have to fix itself.

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And so what I started doing is I started looking like my own self

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help journey, because I didn't know it wasn't like it is today,

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where you can go online, and there's a guru for everything.

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Back then it was like, What the heck do I do you know what I

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mean? So, you know, I was I would read books by Deepak

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Chopra, you know, the original, like, dudes that were like

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trying to help you through things of this nature. That's

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kind of like the way it all started. And then I got deeper

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and deeper and deeper into personal development and

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seminars and things of that nature. And that's what kind of

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really like, opened up my world to this like, I can be do and

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have anything that I want mentality.

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I love that you said that because for me, it was the same

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way, like getting mentors getting involved really heavily

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involved into personal development. For me, it actually

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came first in a multi level marketing company. They're very

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big on, you know, personal development. And that was kind

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of my first introduction. But that environment being around

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other people growing, I have noticed to be a very common

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theme for people in their journey.

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I've had a coach for the last 15 years, like I always say, never

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trust a coach without a coach. So I am I have multiple coaches,

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I'm in multiple mastermind groups, I believe in surrounding

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myself with like minded people who have this desire to grow and

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evolve. And it doesn't matter what level you want to start at,

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like I want to be around people that are just starting out. And

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I will also be around people like I believe in the whole plus

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minus equals scenario. Like I want all of those in my circle

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so that I can help someone who's a minus get up to my level, I

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want someone who's an equal so we can spar and like, you know,

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really go at it mentally. And then I want those pluses that

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I'm chasing because success leaves clues, you know?

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Yeah, and you you exactly what you're saying that success

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leaves clues. But also, just like being in that energy field

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that

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helps totally

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you uplift. Now, I know that you have dove in a little bit more

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into your spiritual side. What was your spiritual life growing

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up? Was it present at all?

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Did you go to church like,

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Yeah, that's a good question. So I wrote I wrote about this in

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the book in depth, because it's such a it was such a weird thing

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for me, I grew up in, in Texas, I grew up in like the, the

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Baptist Church capital of the world, so that you know, there's

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more churches, and there are people in the town I grew up

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with. And so it was a really weird situation before my father

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passed away. I don't remember anything about church. I don't

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remember anything about the Bible. I don't remember anything

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about any of that. But we lived in like the small town in West

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Texas, I was actually out in the country. But as soon as my dad

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passed away, the church people and that sounds like a weird

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thing to say, the church, people of the town. They all started to

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like come in to check on us and things of that nature. And it

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was almost like a, this sounds awful. But it's like a

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recruiting process. Almost. It's like, oh, come to our church, or

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you come to this church, and best intentions, right. But as a

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five year old, when I went to church, and I listened to the

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message of you know, God will take care of you and blah, blah,

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blah. And at five years old, what it just happened to me. I

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couldn't put those two things together. I'm like, if this God

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is such an amazing God, and He wants me to be happy and take

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care of me, I couldn't wrap my mind around, like why he would

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take my dad away from me, right? The only the only the only

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perspective I could gain from it is I must be a horrible person.

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Because bad things happen to bad people. My dad was taken away

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from me. So it must have been my fault, right? And so I carried

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that with me for a really long time and like organized religion

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and go into church. And then when I got to an age where I can

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make my own decisions, you know, when mom was no longer making me

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get up and go to Sunday school and go to church, I stopped

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going to what I would consider to be like organized religion.

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And I kind of started my own quest like I want to study

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everything, Buddhism I'm Taoism like Hindu, like, I want to know

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about everything, so that I can make my own decisions on how I

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want to move through the world. On the flip side of that, I give

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everybody else that same freedom, like I don't, I don't

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care what you believe in as long as you do no harm to someone

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else in the, in the the opportunity of your belief. And

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so I would say now I consider myself and this is very vague,

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but to be more of a spiritual person, like I work with energy

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healers, you know, I believe in you know, the chakras and the

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meridians and the, you know, I think all we are as human beings

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is energy. And I think if you can really tap into that and get

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a really great understanding of, of why you're here from a

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purposeful nature is to connect with other energy sources and

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other energy beings. That doesn't matter what you believe.

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I mean, I believe there is a God, I just don't believe in the

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same structural zation that the Bible lays it out in write, I

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call it the universe, I, you know, I mean, so, but I don't

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get caught up in that some people do like, I'm a free

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spirit of like, you do you and let's all be happy. And let's

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love each other. And at the end of the day, if we come together

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like that, like, that's the real win, right? So for me, I went

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from my religious, Southern Baptist, come up to the front of

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the church, and don't be a senator anymore. It's a now

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like, knowing who I am as a spiritual being, and knowing

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that my purpose here on life is to make other people's lives

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better. And I think as long as I'm walking that path, I can't

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really go wrong.

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Yeah, so you haven't always been walking on this path, you used

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to work in kind of the pharmaceutical kind of health

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care world.

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How was that? Awful.

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So you know, growing up, you know, as a young man, you're

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taught, you're supposed to wear a suit, and you're supposed to

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have a name tag, and you're supposed to have a title. And I

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had a company car, and I had an expense account, and I was

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selling pharmaceuticals that I wouldn't take myself, like, I

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won't even take an Advil, now. I don't take any pharmaceutical

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medications, I don't take anything like that, nor would I

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recommend my family or friends. So I went to work conflicted. On

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You know, from the outside perspective of I'm going to make

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money, I have a really great job, I have a company car, all

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the things I talked about, but I'm selling something that's not

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congruent with what I really believe in. And I got to a point

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where I'm like, this just is not serving me, and I'm not serving

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my purpose here on the earth, in doing what it is that I'm doing.

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And so it was that, that internal struggle and an

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internal battle to know that, like, you can make money doing

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anything, you can probably make more, I mean, I make 10 times

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more money now, as working for myself and with other people and

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doing what I do, than I ever did ever would have, you know,

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having a major corporations title behind my name, you know

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what I mean? And so, the separation of that was was one

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of the biggest transformational moments for me, it allowed me to

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start living as my true authentic self, because as long

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as I was like, perpetrating that like false belief or that false

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j that I'm really not, I was never gonna be able to be my my

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true self, to my relationships, my health and fitness, my

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spirituality, my anything. I mean, I took that mask off of

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like, I have to be this corporate dude, my life got so

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much more amazing. You know, it's, it's get astronomically

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different.

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What was your aha moment that you had to leave?

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I just, it was a struggle everyday. So you know, when

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you're pharmaceutical rep, you go around from office to office,

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and you see sick people day in and day out, and day in and day

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out, and you talk to doctors who really don't, I mean, I'm gonna

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say this in this, this is gonna come off wrong. It's the only

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way I can articulate it. Now. They care about the patient, but

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they don't care about the patient, like, I would like them

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to care about the patient, if that makes any sense, right. And

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I know they don't have the capacity to because they can't

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spend eight hours with one patient cuz there's, you know,

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75 people waiting in the waiting room. So I get that aspect of

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it. But it was just I was I was working in and around things

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that were not congruent with how I felt on the inside. And

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eventually when that internal battle and internal struggle

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gets so deep, and the pivotal moment for me was, I met my

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significant other Laurie now who was very entrepreneurial, very

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spiritual, just like I am, we share a lot, all the same

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ideals. And she basically believed in me before I believed

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in myself that I could do what it is that I do. health and

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fitness, nutrition, transformational coaching all

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that. And, you know, she actually allowed me to give

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myself permission, if you will, to really follow that path. And,

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you know, drop the corporate structure and do all that kind

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of jazz. So I hats off to her and I write about her in both of

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my books. I'm a firm believer that we get nowhere in life on

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our own. And I have no idea where I'd be if I hadn't met

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her.

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Yeah, I am. I can relate on a certain level because I left the

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corporate world six figure income to do my own business as

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well. So, for the people out there who are still in the nine

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to five, who are still in, you know, the working environment,

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but maybe they have something on their heart that they want to

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do, you know, what was kind of your first steps to like, get

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out of that to start building your own thing? What would you

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recommend?

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You know, there's a couple of options, right? Like ever in the

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in the world we live in now, like everybody's talking about

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the side hustle like, you know, you start your thing. Well, you

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got your other thing. For me, that really didn't work. Like I

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went all in on my fitness and nutrition business. And that

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meant starting with zero clients. That meant starting

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with like, a fundamental belief that I could create this and

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make this happen. And it worked out amazingly well for me. But I

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think if you're going to do that, you've got to go in with

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a, an deniable unfathomable uncrackable belief that you are

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going to be successful. And you need a good support system, a

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good circle of success around you, that's going to give you

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that pat on the butt when you need it, because you're going to

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need that as an entrepreneur or somebody who's just now starting

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out. But I think the most important thing is this. If you

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find something that you're unbelievably truly passionate

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about, like not just a little bit, not because it's fun, not

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because it's cute, not because it's popular on Instagram. But

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something that like when you get up in the morning, I'll give you

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an example, I get up at 333 15 to 330. Every morning, when I

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was in the corporate world, I set my alarm for 30 minutes

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before I had to be out the door 630 and I hated getting up. Now

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I get up before my alarm even goes off. And I'm so freakin

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happy that I can't stand it. And that's how you'll know when you

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start doing something that you are so freakin happy to do that

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you don't even call it work anymore. That's the thing for

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you. Like, that's the thing that's gonna get you to where

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you want to go in life. That's the thing that you're gonna be

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able to create a life of abundance with?

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Yeah, so the bullet let's, let's talk a little bit more about

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that self belief. As someone who grew up with a lot of guilt, and

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maybe even shame, how did you build that self belief, that

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self confidence because I know, that's something that a lot of

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us struggle with.

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Yeah, for me, I'm all about my rituals and my standards and my

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habits. And so I create, um, luckily, luckily for me, I'm a

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little bit OCD. So it works in my favor, because I can create

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habits and standards and rituals for myself. And when I create

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them, I stick to them. So it's like I was talking about getting

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up at like, 315 to 330. Every morning, I get up, I go through

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a morning routine, like I'm very structured in my, in my craft,

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what it is that I do. And I think that's important when

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you're first starting out. When you get later down the road. If

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you want to be a little more loose with yourself, I think

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that's great. But just starting out, you need these controlled

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habits so you can know where you're at throughout the day.

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And so that you can like, make sure that you're in the right

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frame of reference in the right frame of mind when you're doing

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all of those things. And so I think the self belief comes with

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this too, keeping promises to yourself. So that's where most

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people go wrong as they break promises that they make to

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themselves. And for some people that broken promises themselves

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for so long, that now they don't even believe their own stuff.

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You know, they don't even believe when they when they say

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they're going to do something like they know, even when they

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say it that it's not going to happen. So they just don't do

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it.

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Yeah.

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Can you expand a little bit on your your morning routine for

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me?

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Because

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I'm with you that when you're in alignment, you get excited for

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the day. But also, you know, if you're waking up early, I'm

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assuming there's some intention setting going on? Can you What's

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happening? Absolutely. So

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and I'm glad you said that I love that word alignment. I

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think that's the key word that if you're in alignment,

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everything flows so much better. So 315 to 330, I get up the

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first thing I do every morning and Laurie can attest this, as I

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say, holy shit, I'm alive. Because I think it's an amazing

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thing. Like I think we take that for granted. And then I say

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thank you. So and then I go in and I start my journaling

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process. So the first thing I do is I start my I do like a

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gratitude card every day. So I have these cards that I write to

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myself. And the first word on top of every card is thank you

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because I'm just, you know, thanking the universe thanking

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God for the abundance that I have in my life. And then I

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write as many things as I'm thankful for on that particular

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card. So I start every single day like that, um, I do an

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intention setting for the day. So I set my intention for the

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day, what is my day going to look like? What's my goal for

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today. Then I go into a little bit of a journaling process

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where I talk about the action steps related to that intention

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and how I'm going to make that intention come to fruition. And

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then I basically get myself ready, head to the gym. I start

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seeing clients at my studio between but most of them start

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showing up around 430 in the morning, so Just start that

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connection process of, you know, working with people and you

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know, connecting with other humans, which I think is super

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vital.

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Yeah, I agree. What can you go to bed? Just curious?

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Yeah. So that's the that's the first question. Most people ask

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me when I tell them how early I get up, I usually go to sleep.

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My goal is to be asleep by nine o'clock. If some night if some

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nights if I'm asleep by 830. That's a huge win. Some nights

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it might be eight o'clock if I've had like a really, you

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know, mentally taxing, you know, stressful week or something of

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that nature. So in between eight and nine,

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and our How do you like create space for yourself to sleep?

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Yeah, to have like that good rest, because I know, in our day

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and age with cell phones and social media, sometimes we can

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get like caught up in stuff. Can you kind of?

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Yeah, so I do, like I do a technology disconnect. Probably

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my goal is to be disconnected by about six to 630. So after 630,

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I don't look at my phone. I don't answer my phone, my

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phone's on silent. Like I don't know, if it rings, I don't know,

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if you text me, I don't know, if you email me, I don't know

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anything. Um, so that's kind of my way of disconnecting from the

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world like that two hours before, at least minimum of two

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hours before I'm going to fall asleep. And that really allows

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my brain to like, get back to just like normal functioning

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without all of them, the likes and messages and blah, blah,

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blah, blah, blah, and all that stuff that we're also addicted

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to. Um, so yeah, I just the technology, disconnect is

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imperative for me. And I run my day, and like two shifts. And so

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when you get up at 315, by 1130, I mean, I've pretty much worked

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an eight hour day, right? So then between 1130, and like, one

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o'clock, usually that hour and a half, it's kind of j time, if I

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need to take a 15 minute nap, I'll take a 15 minute nap. If I

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need to meditate for half an hour, I'll meditate. Like,

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that's my time to like reconnect with the world, outside of

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social media outside of work outside of everything. And then

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from 130 to like I said about 630. That's like the second

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shift of my day.

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So being a coach, a lot of what we do as coaches is we're

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listening to other people's problems and kind of what's

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going on in their lives. Can't How are you separating? Like,

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you're like, if maybe if you're not in the best mood that day,

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how are you creating a barrier between that and your coaching,

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this is gonna sound crazy, I am 99% of the time. And so my

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favorite, I believe in like state control, I believe in like

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controlling your state as the most optimal thing you can do

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for your life. And so equanimity is my favorite word. So

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equanimity basically means neither too high or too low.

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You're basically in flow state with, you know, the universe. So

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that's really where I try to keep my state. I'm occasionally

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I mean, we're not, nobody's perfect, you're going to be

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elevated, or you're going to be down a little bit. But for the

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most part, I'm really great at controlling my state. But that's

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come with like, 10 years of work at that, you know what I mean?

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So now in the stage of my career, I'm really able to

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disconnect from outside things aggravating work stuff,

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technology, breakdowns, things of that nature. I just know that

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at the end of the day, like those things are

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inconsequential. And the most important thing for me to do is

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to tap into that one on one energy connection, like I talked

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about earlier with my client, because that's what they

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deserve. And that's really, you know, that's my purpose is to

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give them everything they deserve. And it's not really

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even about me anymore.

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Yeah, and with that state control, I feel like that's

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something that also comes with that in our work totally is we,

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we see mirrored in our lives, how we feel about ourselves,

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totally. I said yesterday to to one of my clients, like they

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were going through the scenario, and it's this, it's an analogy

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that we've all heard, but we see the world as we are not as it

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is. And so if I come if I come into a state in a state of

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anger, aggravation, or whatever, that's the energy that you and I

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are going to have to fight through to get to whatever it is

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that we really need to get to. So it's it's a it's not fair for

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me to bring that baggage always say like, you know, I have a

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note on the hands of my office that says that I'm responsible

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for the energy that I bring into every senate situation or

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scenario. And so I truly believe that we are responsible for the

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energy that we bring into even this connection we have today

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like you and I chatting like we're both responsible to anyone

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who's listening to have a beautiful, great connective

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energy where we honestly care about what each other have to

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say. And I can expand and expound on those things. So

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that's where people are going to get the true value.

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Now,

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where do you suggest someone kind of starts starts, let

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because I mean, we've been here we've been doing this work for a

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little while. So if we have if you are in this state There's a

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bug flying around I'm sorry. If you are in this state of anxiety

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or fear, and you're you don't know, even know how to

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comprehend this state control that you're talking about?

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What's your suggestion?

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You know, I think about this all the time, because I always ask

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myself, like, what would I do? What would Jay do today? If all

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of this was available? You know, back then whenever I started my

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journey, I'm in my first thought is like, I've probably been has,

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as I would probably have been as overwhelmed as I was

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underwhelmed at that stage, right. So back then it was a

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struggle to find things. Now, that would almost be like an

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excess of information, because everybody's got a system or

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everybody's got a theory or everybody's got to something, I

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think the most important thing for you to do is to kind of back

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into this question. So I believe in broadening your perspective,

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trying to see things from a much wider view than you normally

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would in these scenarios. That way, you can actually take in

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information and figure out what works for you. And I would also

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say to someone, like, how do you learn the best, like some people

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are audible learners, some people can read a book and

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implement strategies really, really easy. Some people can

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read a book and not even remember what they read three

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pages ago. So I think you first and foremost have to really tap

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into you and like what works for you? Do you work? Well, in a in

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a group coaching program? You know, or are you more of a one

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on one person? These are all questions I would ask myself.

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And I would get that answer before I started, like, in the

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in my book, I talk about the personal development vortex. So

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what I think is happening today is there's such an over influx

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of information that everybody is over consuming, and under

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utilizing, meaning we're consuming so many things from so

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many different people in so many different formats, that at the

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end of the day, we don't even know what to do and we're not

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doing anything. So I would say minimize, and this sounds crazy

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to say from a coach's perspective, minimize your

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ingestion of information. And then take that minimization and

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implement whatever it is that you ingest, so that you know if

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that works for you. So if you listen to it, let's just say you

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listen to coach Ted, listen to what Coach Ted has to say,

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implement the strategies that coach Ted gives you. And then

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give your audit yourself audit the feedback that you want to

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give yourself. Did those strategies work for me? If yes,

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do more of that? If no, find another way to do it, right?

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keep trying and sampling to figure out like what works for

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you, because everybody has a different path. And all paths

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can lead to the same destination?

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Yeah, I want to touch back on just like the overload of

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information, because it really can be overwhelming. And you

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it's also hard to know, like, Who am I supposed to listen to

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like this person saying this, this person saying that and it

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just causes more of a confusion and a state of turmoil? And I do

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see I mean, as someone who is involved in masterminds and

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coaching, I do see this, almost like addiction to information

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happening. People are so addicted to being involved in a

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mastermind, but they're not actually utilizing the

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information,

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right? It's almost become kind of cool to be part of a group or

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to be in this guy's mastermind, or Oh, I went to this guy's live

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event or this lady's blah, blah, blah. I'm really lucky in the

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fat in the fact that like, I don't have like, I don't have

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human envy. So I don't, I don't look at like a coach's title.

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And so I'm You and I, we have two mega dudes that were part of

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the program and right and so it'd be really easy for some

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people to get caught up in like, Oh my gosh, like, that's not

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what it's about. For me, it's about the information

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dissemination, like what I can utilize from that. Because I

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wouldn't care if it was, I mean, Tony Robbins or whatever, if he

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didn't resonate with me, it wouldn't matter. Like I get no

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value out of that. And so I think a lot of times what I'd

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like to say to people who are looking for a coach is like,

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don't put the value on the title or the name of the person

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disseminating the information, put the value on the your

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ability to utilize the information that you're

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ingesting, and I'll be honest with you, a lot of the coaches

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me included ever, probably 90% of the people are saying

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virtually the same thing. They're just using different

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language. They're using different techniques. They're

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using different mediums. Some of them cause some of them don't

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cuss, some of them are religious, some of them are

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spiritual. Some of them are purple, some of them are brown,

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some of them are blue, figure out what you like to listen to.

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So here's here's what I'll tell you something about me. I know I

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have to be entertained and educated at the same time. If

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you can't entertain me, you can't educate me just how my

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brain works. I like to laugh while I learn. And so I know

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that it's important to parrot it for me to have a coach or be

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With a coach or in a system, where I can laugh a little bit

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while I'm learning, so just learn what learn how you'd like

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to learn, and then that will help you find the right coach

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for you.

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Yeah, that that awareness factor totally. I'm going to go diving

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deep figuring out your own self. Now that can be that's a whole

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new skirt. Yeah, that's a whole nother thing. Like, that's a

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whole nother level. And it is scary. And part of finding who

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you are, is creating space to find who you are. So that means,

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you know, I actually did an episode on this before on the

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magic of creating space, if you want to go back and listen to

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that, you guys. But in summary, it's basically you just need to

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give yourself that time away from the social media and the

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podcast and all of the information I know, sounds weird

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that I'm seeing this on a podcast on a person. And as

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someone who creates called as a content creator, like you need

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to take a step back from that. And part of that just even

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backtrack more is like that technology, detox before

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bedtime, like Jay was talking about something that I do as

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well, that's very important in my life. And you guys, if you

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take that step back, like that is the only way that you're

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going to actually find yourself. And then from that place, you

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can move forward. And you can be like, okay, now I can find the

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mentor. And now I can find the places where I can learn from.

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I'll give you I think that's amazingly intelligent and vital

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information. I would say, don't think about going back and

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listen to that episode. Go back and listen to that episode, if

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you haven't already, because I think that's crucial. And I'm

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going to expand on that a little bit deeper. So for myself, I

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know that I have to get away. So I'm such a I love to work I love

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I love what I do. It's not even work. I hate to use that. But I

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also know that I get extreme clarity when I'm away from it.

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So Laurie and I, we go on like these little sabbaticals like

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we're going to Sedona this weekend for a birthday, we go to

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these little places that when I come back from somewhere, I'm so

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much more clear. I'm so having much so much more clarity. And I

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agree, I'm a content creator as well. And I want to I want you

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guys to hear this. Like, I love social media, and I hate social

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media at the same time. And here's the reason I don't like

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it is because I think comparison is the thief of joy. And I think

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that's where a lot of people find themselves in. I'll tell

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you what I put up I posted at least one post on Instagram,

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usually every day, and I cannot tell you how many likes I get. I

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don't care. That's not why I post it, I don't post it to get

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likes, I post it because here's my here's my intention with that

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post. I want one person to read that and be like, Thank you, Jay

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like that, that is gonna help me today get to a different place

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of where I need to be. That's all I care about. I don't care

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if I get 5000 likes, who cares? If you get 5000 likes? If nobody

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does anything with your content? Who cares? What's the value of

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that? So create content, consume content based on value not on

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anything else? I don't care who posted it. It could be a dude

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with one follower and it may be a pivotal statement. That's

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that's just as important as if Tony Robbins post something. And

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they said the same thing. It's just as important. Doesn't

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matter who the title is behind the guy who posted it. We have

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to lose that concept.

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get crazy.

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I'm sorry, I get a little I get a little bit hyped up?

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No, it's okay. Because I'm so with you. Like sometimes people

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are like, Oh, I want to hire this coach because they have a

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million followers or whatever. And both of us we do have

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coaches who are in that space. Yeah, I do have a million

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followers. And, but that's not the important part. Like it

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doesn't matter what their following is or how many people

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are engaging with the content, like it really just, it matters,

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the message and how you can relate to it. And that's one

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thing that I want to share with you guys as well is no matter

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where you are at in your journey, like you can share and

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you might not even know that people are watching, you might

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not even know that people are being impacted. I can't even

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tell you how many people have come to me within the past year

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who have been like, I've been following your journey for the

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past six years. And I just want to tell you this and I'm like I

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never even knew who you were.

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Yeah, it happens all the time. Guys, I want she's dead spot on.

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Somebody is watching you right now and is waiting and wanting

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you to do something that's going to help them get to the next

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level of where they want to be.

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So based on that, um, what it was we're talking about, like

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this, lots of information out there. So tell me about like the

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fears about oversaturation,

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oversaturation in what context and what do you mean first in

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any business I see a lot of these fears coming up from

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people even like people asking me questions about like, I want

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to do this. But there's like, I'm not your mindset coach,

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like, tell me

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about that. 100% I think first and foremost, you have to you

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have to remove yourself from that comparison analogy. Like I

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think we all have unique abilities. And we all have these

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unique gifts. I'll give you guys a perfect scenario. So where am

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I Fitness Studio is in Palm Desert, California, I can throw

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a rock, and I'll be 45 I have no arm anymore, I'm probably gonna

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toss it under hand, I can underhand a rock and hit five

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fitness studios. But those are people that do the exact same

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thing that I do. And I don't say this is out of conceit or

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anything of that nature. I believe that I'm the best in

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town. I have an amazing clientele. And I never ever

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worry about someone going next door. I don't care. It's not I'm

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never worry about that. All I worry about is taking care of

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the people that I'm supposed to take care of. And that is who

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you will get drawn to you. people that aren't supposed to

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come to you guess what, they're not coming to you. No matter

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where you're at them had a pretty your sign is doesn't

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matter how many free things you give them doesn't matter what

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your discounts are, they're not coming to you. And if they do,

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they'll leave quickly because they're in the wrong place. But

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the people who are supposed to be with you will be with you. I

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mean, literally the the what I would consider like the

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competitor, if you will and I don't consider them that is

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literally less than 100 yards, 50 yards away from my front

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door. They have great clients. They run by my door sometimes

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and I'm like, Hey guys, what's going on? Like I treat them like

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they're my own clients, right? They don't come to me and that's

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okay. Like they have a home. Everybody's got a home. So, lose

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this oversaturation thing. So if you want to be an online coach,

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guess what? It's busy. There's people everywhere everybody's a

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coach today. But they're not you. They're not read they don't

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talk like you they're not going to feel like you they're not

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going to connect like you. They're not going to post like

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you so just be you don't mimic somebody else's strategies that

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somebody else's tactics, somebody else's language. You

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don't have to be Gary Vee, you will come off, so inauthentic.

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You don't have to be Andy for Sella, if use the F word every

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other word out of your mouth. And you're like a tiny little,

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you know, guy who's never worked out a day in his life, it's

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probably gonna come out inauthentic, you're gonna come

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out like Why don't you try to be handy like Andy's this giant

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beastly guy, you know, you weigh 117 pounds, it's like, for me,

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it wouldn't been rewarding work. Like it just wouldn't come off.

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Right? So just be you. Like, if you're authentically you, you

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can't lose.

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I that was gold. If you are authentically you, you cannot

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lose impossible. It's absolutely impossible. So like, throw away

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that fear of judgment. Like we've all been through shit.

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We've all been through horrible things, everyone, you know,

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we've, we need to stop allowing that to hold us back. Because

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guess what your neighbor was through something to Jay was

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through a lot of stuff. A lot of stuff. And guess what, the only

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way that we have been able to turn that around and turn our

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you know, the purpose of pain, turn our pain into purpose is by

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accepting that as part of who we are, and then allowing us to

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show up authentically. And just as he said, the right people are

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going to come to you like, I mean, I also own a marketing

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agency. So obviously, like I'm into like funnels and all of

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that stuff. But like that, honestly, doesn't matter. You

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don't need any of those things. You can attract the right people

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into your life without having any of those things. It's all

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just about like that energy that you're putting out there.

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Totally

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orthodontically you you cannot lose. But we talked about this

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before we started the podcast like guys, I do a lot of like

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training videos, and I speak I'm a speaker like I get paid to go

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stand on stage. I say words sometimes that aren't even

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words. Like I make up words that I'll be like to buy and I just

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say that, but that's just part of me being me. And guess what?

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Nobody's ever like, Oh my gosh, J so stupid. They laugh because

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it's like, it's just who I am. It's like it's a part of me. And

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they know that Jay is probably going to take two words, combine

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them and create his own word. And then he's probably going to

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start using it on a regular basis like a weirdo. But people

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are drawn to that because they I love weird people. Like if

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you're a little bit Goofy, and you're a little bit like outside

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of the norm like I'm drawn to you because I'm fascinated by

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people like I want to be around you. Like if you're all straight

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laced and you like memorize your script, and you've got your bow

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ties perfect and your hair's not messed up at all. It's like, you

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know, do you have the perfect background? I'm like, well, this

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is produced and staged. I'd rather just see you be you. And

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I'll follow you all day long because I love I love to watch

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people be themselves.

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When people can't relate to that they can't relate to this

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perfect image, it's like, well, that's so far removed from

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anywhere where I am told, it actually takes away from the

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message that you're trying to share.

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Yeah, I talked about my book like I'm a health and fitness

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guy. When I was young, I was so chubby that the thought of like

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shirts versus skins, like, that's what guys you have to

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play basketball and be like, Okay, you guys be sure to you

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guys be skins, the thought of having to be on skins. If I had

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to take my shirt off, like I lose my mind. Like, I know what

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it's like to be different. I know, it's like to be like an

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outlier. I know, it's like to like feel insecure, and not to

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be vulnerable and to be terrified. That's okay, still be

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terrified. So be vulnerable, nine, that's what gives me the

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authentic presence today of like, I'm just gonna be me. And

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like, if you liked me, then I want you to like me more, you

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know. And if you don't, then I am okay with that, too. Like, we

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just don't vibe. And that's cool as well.

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You just brought something up that I want to ask about as

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well. So one of the things that Jay does is he helps people with

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their weight loss, but on like an energetic level as well. So

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you're talking about how you used to feel, can you tell me

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how you've noticed this holding on to weight has to do with your

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energetic state

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100%. So I was telling, I was saying earlier, I use health and

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fitness to get people into my world so that I can really

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honestly truly help them transform into the human that

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they want to be they desire and they deserve to be. And I think

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weight loss is a side effect of actually healing. And coming to

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grips with the struggle or the tragedy or the pain that most

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people have inside of them. Most people aren't 300 pounds,

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because they just like potato chips, it's just not the way it

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is. The potato chip is just a vehicle for comfort, because

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they're masking it in some other fashion. And so what I do is I

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work on the whole transformational perspective of

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the soul and the mind. And I think that it all really starts

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in between the two years, our brain is the thing that's really

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controlling us. And if we get stuck in these tragedies of

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these painful moments of our lives, we will generally like

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self destruct and part of self destruction could be eating too

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much. Because it's safe. It's the one thing in your life you

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feel like you have control of. And so I know it's not as simple

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as saying, Hey, don't eat donuts anymore, right? Like that may

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work for a little while, but that will eventually break down.

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So you really have to work on the psychology behind why it is

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that someone is over indulging with food. And so that's really

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where I focus. That's really where my my main expertise lies,

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is really digging into the reasons why someone is stuck and

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not so much how they got stuck with the food issues.

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I like that I like that I've

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Do you follow Charlie rocket at all.

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I do not follow Charlie rocket

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I was it just reminded me of his journey, his weight loss journey

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he he has been holding on to a lot of weight. And he was

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recently in Bali. And the coach that he was working with,

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basically told him well, you can change your diet and you can

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like do all these things, but he still wasn't losing weight. And,

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and she was basically like you're holding on to

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the energy.

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They're energetic being of being overweight. And that's what you

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need to heal first, but it just reminded me of that all

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the emotional baggage that people have is much more

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destructive than the physical weight that they're carrying.

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And until you correct until you get a grasp on that emotional

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pain, that emotional baggage, you're never going to long term

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heal the physical weight and the physical pain. That's just the

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that's just the mask. And once you start to get vulnerable and

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get truthful about why you're really in the position you're

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in, then that's the only chance you ever have of like healing

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from anything.

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Yeah, completely. And so this podcast is starting to go. Go

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on, we could continue to dive into so many more topics, but

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we're gonna reel it back in now. So Jay, if there was one final

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thing that you could leave with the audience if they only get

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one thing out of this whole episode. lay it out for me now.

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I believe this wholeheartedly. I think that the universe or life

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always gives you two options and two options only you either get

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to evolve or you're going to have to repeat. And so I think

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we follow these archetypal patterns of things that happen

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in our life. And until we learn the lessons that we're supposed

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to learn, we will continue to repeat those lessons. And so I

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would look for the evolvement the message or the learning mean

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opportunity and everything like I believe that, you know, it's

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like Ed says, I think life happens for us and not to us. So

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everything you're going through everything you've gone through,

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try to find the message within that event within that person

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within that place within that time that you can take something

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to learn from. and utilize that to evolve past that tragedy past

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that adversity past that circumstance. So that you don't

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have to continue to repeat that same thing over and over again,

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because you will repeat it until you learn from it.

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Yes, now you are always creating awesome content. So if people

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want to be inspired by you, if your energy and your story

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related, where can they find you so they can get inspiration for

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sure. The easiest places to be if you're an Instagram person,

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it's just Jay Nixon. So j y, and IX o n dot thrive fitness. I'm

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on Facebook, just type my name Jay Nixon. And then my website

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is thrive forever, fit, calm.

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Awesome day. And as always, you guys, I'm gonna put all of those

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links in the description in the show notes as well, so you can

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easily find Him and follow Him. Thank you so much.

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Thank you.

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I'm today. I'm

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so excited of just about our conversation. I want to have

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more conversations with you in the future is

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super fun.

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Awesome.

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Sweet. Awesome, man.

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That was super fun. Yeah,

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that was good. I like that.

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Yeah, I think it's just like, it's we talked about earlier,

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it's the energy, right? When you've got good energy to

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connection together. It's like, you can talk about anything,

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like everything really flows and, you know, just easy to, to

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go back and forth.

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Yeah. And we're, I mean, I feel that our experiences in life

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have obviously been extremely different, but also very

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similar. For sure. So I think we can we've talked well together I

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enjoyed doing that interview. Sometimes I have to kind of like

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cook. Yeah.

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Oh, like they're all a little bit more who aren't typically

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don't do as much speaking like, I've had, I had a couple of

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interviews with some older women who are doing a lot of really

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powerful work, but they're, you know, not

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Yeah.

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You know, I think that comes to with like, it's like, the more

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you all I do is talk for a living, like I just try to help

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people through like, you know, verbal exchanges. And so you

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kind of get better at it, the more you do it, and you also

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help like I have, I feel like I have an energy connection with

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you. I feel like we could talk about anything when we start

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talking about like, weird random shit right now. And it would be

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awesome. Right? And so I think that helps as well. Like, I feel

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like you know, we have the same energy field. So I think that's

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always like pretty key as well.

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Yeah, yeah, I

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completely agree. I, I try to keep, I always schedule like an

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hour and a half for the podcast, but I tried to a

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