The Real Reason You Are Triggered

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Welcome back to The becoming the big knee podcast. I'm your host

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Djemilah Birnie and you are tuning into minute madness, a

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There you guys Djemilah Birnie here. And today I want to talk

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to you about becoming triggered by things or words or opinions

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of other people. So

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the thing with being triggered when someone says something and

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it starts to just boil up inside of you starts to make you feel

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upset and makes you want to lash back or, or say something back.

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I want you to take a moment and really dive into and think about

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why is this triggering me? Why do I feel this way? Because

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here's the thing, when people say things that touch us on a

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personal level, because we have a fear that what they are saying

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might actually be true. That's when we become triggered. That's

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when those feelings come up. But if someone says something that

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we know absolutely 100% not true about us total BS, that doesn't

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trigger us, it doesn't elicit that same emotion. So if someone

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were to tell me like, oh, you're stupid, I would be like, No, I'm

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not.

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Okay, let's move on, you know. But if someone were to tell me,

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you're a bad mom, because you work too much. That would have

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made me feel an entirely different way. Because that's

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something that I already worry about. I mean, consciously, I do

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know that I am a good mom. But I obviously I have these moments

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where I feel like that where I feel like maybe I'm not, I'm not

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doing enough, right. And so if someone were to say that, that's

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going to upset me, that's going to trigger me because that's

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something that I'm already scared that somebody might be

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scared might actually be true. So if the next time that you

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feel triggered, while I want you to do is I want you to take a

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moment, and I want you to really lean into why why is this

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triggering me? Why do I feel this way?

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Is this something that is true? Is this something I'm scared

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ish? True? How was this inside of me? Why am I feeling this

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kind of emotions? Take a moment journal it out and, and really

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dig into it? You can I highly suggest journaling just because

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it's an easy way to get all of those jumbling thoughts out onto

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one paper and you can really lean into that issue.

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So let me know what you thought about this video and how it is

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helping you are you use your triggers, you can use your

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triggers to grow, you can use your triggers for self

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discovery. Because when you become triggered, instead of

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using that as a trigger to be angry, when you start to feel

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that feeling use it as a trigger to dive into it and understand

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why why do I feel this way? Alright, let me know your

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thoughts on this in the comments below. And I'll talk to you guys

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later.

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