Episode 12

You Can Overcome Anything with Cesar Espino

Cesar Espino has overcome many obstacles in his life. From growing up without a father, followed by his mother leaving, living in extreme poverty in Mexico, all the way to growing a thriving real estate investing + coaching career- Cesar has an incredibly powerful story to share and I was honored to be able to sit down and talk with him! 

You can find his books and follow his journey at the below links.

Website: https://www.cesarrespino.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cesar.espino.1297

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/C2REI/

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Hi! I am your host Djemilah Birnie of www.becomingthebigme.com . I have been building businesses online since the age of 17. When I discovered the power that we hold within our own minds my world truly began to change.

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used to sew clothes just to survive. I didn't have a

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childhood I didn't have the opportunity to either go out and

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play with kids. I didn't have the opportunity to be a kid

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because I was growing up to survive there was times we

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didn't have enough food that I said we have the the Mexicans

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dish, which was just a tortilla with a grain of salt in.

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Hello, fellow Earthlings. Welcome to the becoming the big

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me podcast. I'm your host, Djemilah Birnie. And together,

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we will be stepping into our highest potential, exploring all

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things mind, body, and soul. With justice, major business,

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your spiritual badass solopreneur and a warrior for

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change, you're ready to expand your impact and leave your old

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self behind in order to raise your vibration so that you can

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positively influence your business, your community, and

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ultimately, the world. Without further ado, let's dive right

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into it.

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Hello, hello.

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Welcome.

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beautiful, amazing souls. Thank you so much for tuning in to

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another episode of The becoming the big knee podcast I have with

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me here today. Cesar Spino, a full time real estate investor

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and author of the book you can overcome anything, even when the

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world says no, a real estate mentor and business coach. He

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works with people to help create Win Win solutions, whether that

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be through real estate business, consulting, and inspiring and

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empowering others to reach their full potential he sees or how's

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it going today?

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Hey, Jimmy Lam doing wonderful. It's a beautiful day today here

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in Los Angeles. So I'm excited to be here. So thank you.

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Awesome. I'm

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super excited to have you here as well, and dive into your

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story a little bit more. So let's just get right into it.

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Take it back. Tell me a little bit about growing up your

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childhood? And what's kind of helped form you to be the person

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that you are now today?

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Yeah, yeah, definitely. So let me start off by saying, I'm

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originally from Mexico City. And I came to the states when I was

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about 10 years old, right. And for me, my story really started

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when I when I was born, the day that I was born is you know, the

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day that really define who I was back then, and who am I to

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become now, right. And so to give you a little bit of that

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backstory, I was only I was born into a very poor family, right?

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We didn't really have anything, I only had one parent, which is

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my mom, I don't know who's my biological father, at this

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point, I have never met him, nor that I know his name. And so,

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you know, when I grew up, in Mexico, I was probably one of

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the families that were, you know, the lowest of the lowest

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in terms of social classification. Mexico is one of

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those countries that they really classified their, you know,

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people by, you know, their level of wealth, and you know, the

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classifications, nevertheless, we didn't have anything, right.

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So I will we, I lived in a in a in a what I considered to be my

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home, which was really about 250 square feet of just a room. It

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was my mom, my grandmother, my older brother, and myself. So he

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was four of us in that little room that we consider to be our

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home, we didn't have any running water, we didn't have

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electricity. It was made out of sheet metal and plywood. And

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that was our home. Right. And so that's really where my story

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started. Because as they go back into that into that time, you

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know, we didn't have anything. So we have to really, as

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probably many people in different countries, how we have

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to work early enough to start supporting ourselves. One thing

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happened just after I turned 40 years old, my mom decided to

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take her leap of faith and left us and came to the States. And

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so at that time, you know, as a kid, you go back and like, what

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did I do? Like I blame myself like, Did I do something that,

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you know, I have no father, and now my mum decided to leave to

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go someplace else. And I didn't understand why. Right? That was

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a changing in my life. One I was trying to question what

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happened, what did I do and number two, he turned out to be

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only my my older brother and my grandma. And at that point, we

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decided we It was not really a decision, we had to start

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working. So we will go to the flea market. We'll be working.

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We'll sell food, you know, a bunch of different things to

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survive. And that didn't cut it. We're not making you know, the

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means. Then we started doing another thing. We actually

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started sewing clothes, right? So we actually I used to have a

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sewing machine. I know how to sew. So we used to sew clothes

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just to survive. I didn't have a choice. When I didn't have the

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opportunity to either go out and play with kids, I didn't have

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the opportunity to be a kid because I was growing up to

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survive, there was times we didn't have enough food that I

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said, we have the, the Mexicans dish, which was just a tortilla

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with a grain of salt in, that's all we had four days. And so

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again, I go back to that, and I'm like, I'm grateful to an

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extent I don't, I don't condone for anyone to be doing that at

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that age. So that's what's made me become who I am. Now, fast

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forward to when I was 10. Finally, my mom came back. And,

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you know, it seems like we had the opportunity to come to the

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States. And I didn't want to be here to be honest with you, I

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didn't want to be in the states for a couple of reasons. Number

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one, I couldn't speak the language. Number two, I couldn't

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communicate with anybody. Number three, I was in a in a place

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where I didn't know anyone, you know, it was very difficult for

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me to get adjusted to this live. And, you know, working for all

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these years and coming to the States, I felt like I was not

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fitting in, you know, I got discriminated when I was kid

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growing up in in the in the school system, because again, I

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couldn't speak, I couldn't communicate, people that didn't,

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you know, I couldn't connect with people. So that was just

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very, very bad. And I remember one time telling my mom, I'm

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like, I don't want to be here, do whatever, really, whatever

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you need to do send me back to Mexico. I don't want to be here.

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Luckily, I'm glad she didn't send me back. Because I'm glad

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that I'm here. You know, there's definitely a great nation. But

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again, I have to go through all those different obstacles,

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right. And, you know, luckily, after being here two years, I

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was able to communicate, I was able to master the language, I

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was able to talk to people. And I did what many people didn't

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do, right. And I talked about, I talked about this in my book, a

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lot of people come from different countries, forgetting

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about a purpose or forgetting about that opportunity that this

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country has to offer. Right. And I seen that time after time.

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People come from other countries, and I'm not sure why

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and I cannot comprehend. They tend to fall into those negative

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influences, whether it's gangs, tagging, cruise, Robin, whatever

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the case may be some sort of crime, right? I set up so many

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different times, growing up in middle school and high school, I

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decided to not do that. I decided to not do that. My focus

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was you know, let me focus on school. Let me focus on myself.

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And just continue to do that. Now I'm not saying I'm perfect,

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because I'm not right, I went through so many different

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things. And I think my second challenge coming to the States,

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the first one was that I was being discriminated, I didn't

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know how to fit in with with this society. The second one, at

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the age of 15. I you know, not having a diet dad or someone to

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tell me what's right or wrong. From from a male perspective. I

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ended up you know, I had a girlfriend, and at the age of

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15, we got pregnant, right. So just at the age of, sorry, age

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of 15, at the age of 16, my daughter was born again. So when

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I think about that, it's like, I'm a a kid, that's raising a

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kid, right. And I know a lot of people can relate to that a lot

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of there's a lot of teen moms, a lot of teen parents, and a lot

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of times, like what I can tell you with that is that you have

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to be able to take that particular case and just make

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the best out of it. I remember telling my daughter when she was

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born, I made one promise. And so far, I've been able to keep up

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that promise. I said, You know what, I'm gonna give you

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whatever I didn't have when I was a kid, because when I was a

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kid, I didn't have anything. I said, you're never gonna have to

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work when you're a kid, you're never gonna have to suffer,

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you're never gonna have to worry about not having food or

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clothes, or any of that stuff. That's my promise to you. So

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that became my motivation, right? Instead of that being a

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negative thing. I say, you know what I got to deal with what

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emerges. I'm a kid having a kid is sick. Now I'm just going to

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be my motivation. So then I went out and started to work in an

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early age. You know, I was going to school working, school

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working school working, that was my focus, you know, they they

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out? And yeah, I continue right. Fast forward, I had a couple of

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more obstacles that came after the fact. I have, unfortunately,

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I had another really huge setback when I was 22. And it

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will see a dispute that I have with my, my my daughter's mom,

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and I'm not proud of it. It's it is the reality. And at that

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point, you know, again, not having that no fear not having

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all these different things, unfortunately, went to jail for

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a couple of days. Right? And so again, it's those little things

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that come up, and I'm like, What is the lesson that I need to

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learn here from this year? And lucky enough, you know, I came

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out and say, Okay, I this isn't me, I need to do something

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better for myself. And and so I talked about a lot about this in

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my book, because there's so many different obstacles that life is

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going to be hidden and pushing on you. And so, either you're

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going to give in or you're going to learn from that, right?

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You're either going through the pain, you're going through the

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pain or you're growing through the pain, right? And so I

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decided to grow from that pain

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now If I look at, you know, my years now, I was working for a

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very good, credible company worldwide company, I was working

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on corporate making really good money over six figures traveling

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all over the place. Except I think my mind, my heart was

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telling me, you know what, there's more to you than this.

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And I decided to take my leap of faith, I left my my corporate

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job, left everything behind behind to pursue my purpose and

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what I believe to be my purpose nine, and that is to help people

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to empower empower people and inspire people through my

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lessons and be able to give back in that sense. So that's kind of

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where I am right now.

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Awesome. So what would you say was the biggest turning point in

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your life? Was it going to jail? Or was it leaving that corporate

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position?

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Yeah, I think, you know, I think having I can, yeah, right. Yeah.

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You know, I think at any given point, there was different

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turning points in my life, I think each one of those were had

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a different lesson. And there was something different for me

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to learn off of each of those. If I look. Now, where I'm at

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now, and what I'm doing now, I would say my biggest thing was

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leaving my job, you know, the most recent thing, because,

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again, you're going from that, and I think 99% of the people

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are going through this is, you're in that comfort zone,

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you're, you're so comfortable getting that paycheck, even

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though you know that they can fire you any time. A lot of

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people know that I'm like, I might go to work today. And I

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may not have that job, because it is not my company, right? It

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said people are so comfortable with that with the idea that I

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have benefits. I have vacation, I have a job that's paying me

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that secure paycheck. And so to me, that was probably the most

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recent turning point in my life. It actually took me about 10

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months to make this decision. I was going to do this 10 months

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prior for me leaving the job. And I got cold feet. I just

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couldn't do it. I broke down I I just couldn't do it. Right. And

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so it took me literally 10 months to realize that I should

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have done what I did that time 10 months prior.

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Okay. Yeah. And during this time, were you kind of in the

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personal development world, yet I know that you're really

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immersed in it. Now. That's how we connected, right? But were

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you involved in any of that stuff? Where were you doing that

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inner work? Did you have a spiritual kind of background or

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anything of that nature?

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So I started, I would say maybe two years prior to leaving my

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corporate job, I kind of getting introduced or involving to the

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self development to, you know, becoming the better version

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writing and doing things that I didn't do in the past. So I

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started doing some of it, I didn't do a whole lot. I would

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say maybe there were those 10 months when I said, you know

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what I need to definitely just take this leap of faith during

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those 10 months is when I got more spiritual sound. That was

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one thing that I didn't, I lost for for a minute, right? My, my,

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my grandmother when I was in Mexico, and even after coming

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here, were various perfectly sound from from from that

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perspective, you know, and then I lost that touch, I got

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disconnected. And then I got reconnected again, with that

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higher power. And I said, You know what, I was very spiritual.

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And then I got connected with myself, What am I going to do to

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become, you know, that person that I'm looking to become. And

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so those last 10 months, I got more involved with that self

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development, spiritually, working on myself, things like

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that. And so I can tell you, at least for me, I needed to find

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myself spiritually, emotionally, to be able to do this, what I'm

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doing now, otherwise, I will probably be back working for

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that company, which again, is a good company isn't working for

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somebody else and not doing what I'm doing now.

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Now, can you walk me kind of through some of these practices

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that you use for yourself to keep yourself sound and

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emotional, you know, your emotional intelligence up? Like

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what are you doing for yourself? Because I know that you are

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serving people all the time in your business and with coaching

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and with your real estate investment, like a lot of times

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we get so caught up in serving others, how are you serving

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yourself?

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Yeah, so one thing that I decided to do, there's a couple

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of things that I do on a day to day basis. The first thing that

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I do when I wake up is I give gratitude to God, I I literally

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spend, I would say the first 30 minutes doing a couple of

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things. Number one, I do daily affirmations that are empowering

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to you know, any can be necessarily I am a millionaire,

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you know, that could definitely be one but it's not necessarily

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that it's more about I am loved. I am I am I am healthy, you

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know, I am wanted I serve people, right? And so I do the

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affirmations every day, when I wake up. I also do a gratitude

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to myself a lot of times I find this and I started doing this

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maybe about six months ago now. More so now. A lot of times I've

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you find People that they're waiting for somebody else's

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validation of you to say, Jamila, you're beautiful

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Djemilah, you're wonderful. Djemilah You're great, right?

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And you're waiting for that person to tell you that. It

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said, what about you do it yourself. So I actually get in

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front of the mirror. And I say three things. And I actually

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have it here in my book. So what I say three things to myself, as

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I say, Caesars, you know, I appreciate you, Caesar Spino, I

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think you Caesar spin Spino I love you. And those are the

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three things I tell myself every day, right? So I do

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affirmations, I do a prayer of gratitude, I tell myself how

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grateful I am for myself. And then I do meditate and

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visualize, right, so I didn't when I wake up, before I go to

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sleep, I do the same exercise. So I do it twice a day, at any

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given point. And then, throughout the day, one of the

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things that I started doing now more so than before is I am

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doing self learning by educating myself in reading. Now, before I

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get to read I that's kind of ironic, because I read a book.

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However, I didn't read and the last time that I actually read a

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book, is because I was forced to read a book in my English class

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back in high school, you know, and so it said, Now I'm reading,

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you know, and that's something that I feel like, is good to

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self educate yourself. Right. So those are just some of the

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practices that I do. And I also like to do, walk or run, you

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know, at any time and just to, you know, clear my mind and

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appreciate life and go out and and just, you know, have some

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time to clear my mind, you know,

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yeah, I love that. Those are all things that I incorporate in my

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life as well now, you know, the past two years, and I can

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definitely relate to the reading. I even in high school,

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I actually didn't read I was the notorious Cliff Notes. Who was

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my teachers used to get so mad at me because I'm a really good

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storyteller. And I was always able to, like Ace all of my

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recordings and, and speeches about books, just because I

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would listen to what other people would say. And I wouldn't

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lie. But I wouldn't actually read until the last two years is

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when I really started reading. I probably read more books last

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two years in my entire life.

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Yeah, so have I. Yeah.

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So let's wind it back a second, again, to when you were leaving

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that corporate position? Did you go right into real estate at

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that time? or What did you do?

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No, yeah, so I had already started real estate. Um, I would

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say maybe three years prior to me leaving my corporate job. So

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to back up a little bit, I started real estate back in

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2007 2008 2009, when the housing market took a hit. I went with

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that hit, right. So I lost a lot, I lost properties, I lost,

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I was foreclosed on a few shorts on some other ones. So I said,

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You know what, this is not for me. And so when, when that took

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place, I said, You know, I just need to focus on my, on my work

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and working for somebody else. And, and, and so I ended up

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doing that I went back to school, got my master's degree.

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And I just that was my focus at that point. And then I got

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reintroduced to real estate again, I think it was 2004 2000

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sorry, 2014 2015. Around that time. And, and I said, You know

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what, let me give it a try. I'm a different person now. And you

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know, you're I'm growing, I have my master's degree now. I can

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definitely, you know, see, see what I can do now. Right. And so

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I got reintroduced, it took me some time to get my business up

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and running again, because it's not, it's not that that simple,

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you know, or it wasn't that simple for me at that time. And

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so I got into reintroduce, and I started doing, you know, deals,

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I started wholesaling properties, I started buying,

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fixing and flipping properties. So you know, so I had that in

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the back end. So one of the reasons why I said, you know,

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what, I need to either focus 100% on my real estate business,

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or 100% on my job is because he was definitely taking a lot of a

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lot of my, my, you know, energy, right. And not only me also on

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people that were around me, you know, unfortunately, I would

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say, because of this, at that time, I was on a long term

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relationship. I think everything just getting together, he just

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ended up creating a challenge for me, where I ended up losing

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a 10 year relationship over all the different things that I was

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doing for myself, right. And so I said, you know what I need to,

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I just need to do one or the other. And that's why I decided

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to do the leap of faith into the real estate. So I was already in

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the business. And that was the only business that I was

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actually doing, by the way, real estate at that time.

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And remind me again, do you have a real estate license or not?

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No. Okay. No,

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that's, that's something I would like you to share a little bit

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more about with our listeners, because I know there's a lot of

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people that are always looking for other ways to make money and

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a lot of times people think to be In real estate, you have to

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have that real estate license. And I remember you saying that

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your speech at the Better Business summit, you didn't have

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that. So can you

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add on that a little bit more?

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Yeah, definitely. So there's essentially a one year timer

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real estate, there's different strategies, right. And so the

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most common that a lot of people know about is, you know, become

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a realtor, you know, go out and, you know, either help people buy

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or sell their property, right? For that you have your license,

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when you look at a real estate investor, you don't have to have

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a license, you can actually get into real estate, you can

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actually work on deals by not having your license, right. And

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the most common, which I talked about on the Better Business

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summit, is assignment of contract, right? You don't need

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to have, you know, really even a lot of capital to be able to do

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that. And so a lot of people just don't know about it, right?

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They, they think they have to have the license to do a real

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estate transaction is not so much about that. It's more about

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how to structure it, and what do you need to do to make sure that

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you can actually do it, and not get it, you know, in any in any

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issue. So, at the end of the day, you can do a lot of deals

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in and have a license. One thing that I talked about in my

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mentoring program is you have to have a what I consider to be a

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Power Team, a Power Team will be you know, numerous people, one

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of those people is going to be a realtor that's going to help you

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transact that transaction that you get yourself into.

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Okay, and how do you how have you found those people? How have

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you kind of built that sphere? For you have the right people

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that have the same mission as you?

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Yeah, it's through networking. I mean, I, you know, it's, I

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cannot reinforce that enough, right. And if you're afraid to

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go to a speaking event, or you're afraid to go to any kind

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of event, or a meetup event, or even work to somebody and talk

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to somebody, you're not going to grow, right, you have to make

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sure that you network, so, you know, when it comes down to

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like, even my, my community, like the way I found you, right,

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in my community of the entrepreneurs, the people who

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want to more for the lives it has been through through events

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and sermons, right? If I, when I first got into this business,

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and I and I wanted to find a realtor, I actually want to open

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houses, I wasn't going to buy the house, I just went to

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connect. And, you know, I said, Hey, I'm a real estate investor,

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I'm looking to work with somebody, will you be

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interested? And then we started the conversation, and then we

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started looking at it, you know, is that person a good fit for

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me? Or am I a good fit for that person? And that's how I found

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some of the realtors that I work with right now. So Matter of

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fact, one of the realtors that I've been doing business with

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for about four years now, we, we we've done transactions where I

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found properties, she represented me on that

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transaction. And you know, she made the sale, or just

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yesterday, we enter into a joint venture where we're actually

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going to be flipping a property together. So again, it's just

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those things that you can find ready, you have to be able to

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network with people.

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networking and leveraging. Yep. Oh, yeah. Others skills. Yeah,

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right. Yeah, exactly. And that's the other thing, too, is like,

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don't believe that you know, everything you have to know, you

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know enough to to be able to find the right person for you.

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So yes, you're right, leveraging people. And I don't consider it

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to be a bad thing. Because again, it's kind of a win win.

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Right? Again, basically, like in this joint venture. I'm going to

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help her she's going to help me we're going to have a you know,

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a pretty good combination there.

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Yeah. And that kind of leads into my next question, how big

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of a part in your journey and your story has been like

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mentorship?

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Huge, has been huge. I think, throughout the last, I will say,

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throughout the last three years, I've had maybe five, six

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different mentors, and again, in different areas, right. So you

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know, I think that's huge. I mean, I, again, I go back to the

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same thing, you know, it's just like, if you go to school,

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right, and this is probably the best way that I can put it, a

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lot of people don't see the value of that. I'm like, why did

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I get to pay somebody this money? or Why did I get to be

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part of the network? Well, even if you were going to a public

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school, right? Or if you're going to private school, it's

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like going to school, you have a teacher, that teacher

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essentially is your mentor, they're teaching you something,

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they're, they're showing you how to do something in there

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material. Well, it's like in anything in our real life is the

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same thing. You have to get somebody that has already done

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that can help you get there faster, and can teach you and so

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to me, I'm constantly getting mentored by people and learning

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from those people. Because I know the power of that, right? A

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lot of times even when we're when we get out of you know,

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college, it's like, Okay, that's it. I've learned I put my money,

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I went to school, I don't need to do anything else. I know

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everything and that's not the case. So to me, that has been

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very, very important for my real estate business. I've gone into

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a couple of different businesses now. Where I have, you know,

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I've got mentors for that. And even just, you know, the self

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self love and self development, you know, learning from People

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that are doing it. I'm like, Okay, that makes sense. They're

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happy. They're enjoying their life. I need to do that. Let me

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learn from them. Right. So I 100% approve of that. Yeah, I

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agree. mentorship has been like one of the biggest things for me

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and, and also like having that that financial investment into

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it. Yeah, is really, really powerful. I don't know if you've

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noticed this as well. But once you start paying for something,

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you're like, Oh, crap, I got it.

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Seriously, now? Exactly. Yeah, yeah, there's a different,

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there's a, there's a different sense of, I guess,

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responsibility and accountability. When you do

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that, you know, it's funny, because I referred to a lot of

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people, they go to community college, or many people, they go

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to community college, right. And they're paying the school or the

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public system is paying for for the community college, right? I

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found that a lot of people are, they're just wasting their time,

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right, and I call them seat warmers, they're just sitting in

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warm up the seat, that's all they're doing. And it goes back

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to that door. If you're someone that's paying for something, the

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responsibility and accountability tends to be 10

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times bigger than somebody who's getting it for free. So I also

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believe that if you're getting a mentor for free, you're probably

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not gonna do the work, and you're probably not going to do

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the, you know, the tasks, you're probably gonna put in 100% of

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your time. Because you don't have any, you know, risking on

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your side, you know. So, again, we see that time over time with

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different things. And I believe that Yeah, you know, having a

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mentor, being able to have that financial responsibility is

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definitely gonna push you to the next level. And I myself, I'm

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sure you have to, you know, in the last three years, I spend,

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you know, a lot of people say, Well, what you can spend so much

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money, because I keep learning because I keep growing because

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they become a better person. I spend so much money in mentoring

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and is, and I'm okay with that. Because I'm learning from that a

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lot of people are afraid of that.

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Yeah, and sometimes like getting in a little bit uncomfortable

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situation, which I know logically, a lot of people are

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like, no, but for me, like sometimes putting that a little

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bit amount of money that's a little bit uncomfortable. It

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really helps light that fire, where you really start to see

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things happening at a much quicker pace. Yep.

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Yep. Yeah, for sure. Yeah. And that's, that's one thing that,

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um, you know, I also see it as a different thing, right? A lot of

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people go through traditional school, right? So traditional

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school is, you know, just like any, in any traditional college,

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I consider this to be a non traditional educational for

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yourself, again, you're working on yourself is self development

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is not traditional. A lot of people are okay to go get a

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student loan and pay $30,000 to get a degree. I mean, and I'm a

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firm believer of education does I have a Master's I, you know, I

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would do it 100 times over. The difference now, by the way, is

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that, if you're going to go back to school, make sure that is for

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you in this my advice, and I was telling my daughter this last

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time, if you want to go back to school, to get a degree, make

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sure that that is for you is a self accomplishment for you. Not

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because you want to use a piece of paper to go get a job, that's

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that was my mentality, then it's not my mentality now. So

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anyways, a lot of people are okay to, you know, find the

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means to get a student loan, you know, of, let's say, $30,000, to

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get a degree so that they can hope to get a job, right.

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However, our people are not okay to get the same amount of money.

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I don't care how you borrow that money, and get mentor non

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traditional education by somebody else that can help you

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and skyrocket your your your future. I don't get it, you

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know, and so, again, I don't know what's your putting your

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thought on that. But that's, that's the reality, right? Are

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people go through it? So yeah, I

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don't I don't get it at all.

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It's one

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of those things, I completely blows my mind. Like, Oh, my

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gosh, I'm gonna go to school for all this time, pay all this

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money to enter a job where I'm not even going to be making

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$100,000 a year,

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right. Now, not only that a lot of times again, you you have a

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degree, and you work in a different field. Yeah, that

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happened to me with my bachelor's, I had a I have a

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background in it. And I was working in operations, nothing

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to do with computers or software that deal with any of that. So I

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mean, it just the reality. So anyways, yeah,

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I take the classes that you want to learn about, right?

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Yeah, exactly.

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So I'm curious because now you're your daughter. How old is

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your daughter? She's older. She's out of the house. Right?

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Well, she lives with me. I mean, she's 23.

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Okay. Yeah. So I was I was gonna ask, so what is your big driving

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factor? Now? I mean, you've been able to provide her a much

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better life than you grew up with. Like, what is keeps that

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fire burning for you to keep growing and expanding? Because I

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know that you're just keep doing like all these crazy things.

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Yeah, yeah. I, you know, I think now more so and so my next

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purpose is I really want to read Tired my parents, right? So I

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and I actually have it I put on the universe, I believe, but

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again, and just maybe for your listeners, I am a firm believer

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of putting things out to the universe, writing it down, you

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know, and just really focusing on that, that one thing that you

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want. So anyways, I put out on the universe, I haven't on

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paper, I want to retire my parents. That's number one.

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Number two. Although I have given my daughter a lot of a lot

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throughout her years, I want to leave more for her, I want to

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give her more options so that if I'm not here, tomorrow, she has

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something to fall back on, right, I want to be able to give

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that to her. Number three, I really want to help people. And

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there's certain people that have been there for me in the sense

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of, you know, I see your vision, because a lot of people you tend

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to lose a lot of people you've been to, a lot of people tend to

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walk away from you, they think you're crazy, and they're not

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gonna support you. And then there's some of those people

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that might stick around and say, You know what, I feel you, I

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hear you, right. So my little brother hasn't been very

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supportive on this. So I want to be able to empower them and help

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them through, right. And the last thing is, I want to be able

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to give back, right, I need coming back from my very humble

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beginning, not having a whole lot not having a lot of options,

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I want to be able to take some of that and take it back and

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give back to people. As a matter of fact, one of the things that

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I do now, and I'm trying to really grow them a lot more is I

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go down to so we're not too far from Ross, in Sonora, Mexico,

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right? Just the border of San Diego. And one of the things

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that I do there is I actually go out with a group of people, this

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isn't none church related. It's just people that that want to,

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you know, help others and we go out and we build houses. For

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people that don't don't have anything, people that came the

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same way that I came that didn't have anything. So in three days,

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we actually spent the time in building a house, with concrete,

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with lights, with insulation with all of that stuff. And so I

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want to be able to do more of that. That's my driving, it's

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like I want to just be able to give back, you know,

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yeah, that's, that's one of my big driving factors as well. And

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I feel like, you know, a lot of times people have a negative

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connotation with wealth, and they feel as if you know, money

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is the root of all evil is something that you hear all the

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time, right. And I just want, you know, to stress, like, like,

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all these amazing things that Caesar is able to do now, if he

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had not grown his business and grown his wealth in the way that

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he has, he wouldn't be able to do that money is an amplifier of

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whatever is already inside of you. So if you're are if you

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have ill intentions and you get more money, then sure, you can

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do bad things with money. But if you're have good intentions,

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then money just amplifies that. And it allows you to do all of

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these incredible things like like Cesar is doing, and I'm

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sure that all of the more things that are going to come as, as

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your life just continues to expand.

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Yeah, yeah. And that's exactly right. I mean, I believe that

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money is a good vehicle to to give back and help out. And

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again, at least, that's my vehicle, you know, similarly, my

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primary business being realistic, that's my vehicle to

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help me do the things that I want to be able to do. Right.

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And so, I, again, people have to take away the negative belief of

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money, the negative belief of I cannot do this, the negative

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belief that, you know, I don't know how to do accounting, we

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have to change that frame, and be able to say, Well, how are

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what do I need to learn to be able to get to the level? Who do

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I need to be around to be able to learn from them? Right? I

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would this I'll tell you, there's, there's, I do believe

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that the that you are the average of the five people you

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hang around with. And one thing that I would say is there's

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three kinds of people you want to have in that group number

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one, you want to have people that are playing at a higher

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level and then you are why because then they're gonna

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inspire you for you to become that you know, it's a driving

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force. Number two, you won't have people that are playing

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maybe the same level as you are. However, they are edifying you,

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they're helping you on, you know, you're growing with them.

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And then number three, you want to have people right below you,

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that are looking up to you so that you can reach down and pull

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them back up with you. And that's to me is like you have

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that mix, man. You're golden, you know?

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Yeah, and, okay, I want to I want to talk a little bit more

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about your coaching program and kind of what you do with with

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your students, are you just focusing on the real estate

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investing or are you kind of what's your mentorship look

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like? Like, what are you kind of?

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Yeah, yeah, so so my Yeah, so overall, the mentoring program

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is for real estate investing. So it's for people that want to get

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into real estate, they've never done it, they want to get

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another stream of income, right. And so we talked about the the

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assignment of contract the we talked about buying, fixing and

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flipping houses. Pretty sweet. That's the mention program.

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However, I do not start my mentoring program with real

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estate, right? My mentoring program, the very first session

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we talked about is the mindset. And I focus a lot on the

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mindset. And the reason why I spend, you know, I would say a

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whole chapter on the mindset is because, again, if I cannot, if

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I cannot have you change the frame or look things

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differently, it doesn't matter what I teach you, it doesn't

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matter if there's real estate, stocks, Bitcoin, it doesn't

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matter, if you don't have the mindset to say, you know, what,

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there might be those done for them, you might get those, no,

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you're gonna get that, you know, all of that negativity that you

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tend to see, if you don't know how to attack them and how to

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deal with them. I'm not gonna be able to help you. All right. So

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I talked a lot about the the mindset I go over, you know,

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understanding your why, what is your purpose? What is your,

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your, your intention at the end of the day, right? That's one

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thing that I cover in the mindset, the only thing that I

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that I cover on the mindset is to be able to create daily, what

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I consider to be daily rituals or, or habits that are going to

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empower you to get better at that. We go over some material

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where you read a book, and then and then I have you reflect

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yourself into that book into that story. And where do you see

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yourself, right? So there's a couple of different things that

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we go over a couple different exercises that we'll go over to

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make sure that I can get people and then mindset that once we

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start talking about real estate, and they send me their first

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offer, or, or multiple offers, and they come back and they come

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back and say, Hey, sorry, I don't want your offers too low,

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that they don't get discouraged. Right, and they can go back and

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do it again. So that's that's how I start my mentoring

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program. So that's my mentoring program. I do also have an

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accountability mentoring group that I that I do on a different

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site. And the whole purpose of that is to do a couple of

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things. Number one, we want to go over any losses any, anything

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that that any wins that have been through the time any aha

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moments, and then also be able to give feedback, right? So we

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focus on those four things. So during those accountability

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meetings, and this can be for anything, by the way, right?

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Maybe it could be I want to lose 10 pounds. Okay, so did you have

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any major breakthroughs? Did? Is there any aha moments that you

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want to share with us? What kind of feedback can we give you?

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Right? And so we go over those four different elements in my

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accountability group.

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Yeah. So it's kind of like a group coaching program. Yes.

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Yep. Okay, awesome. So Cesar, I have really, really loved

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hearing all about your story and your background, because that's

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not anything that I've bought into here yet before. I've

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mostly heard, you know, your investment speaks on. So if

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there's one key takeaway that people can take out of this

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podcast, if they forget everything else that was said

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today, what is that one thing?

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So there's a couple of reasons. But one, one thing I would say,

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would be really to work on yourself. It just comes down to

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that, right. And what I mean by that is, a lot of people tend to

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work so hard for somebody else, making them, you know, rich, or

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wealthy, or whatever the case may be, you know, they're

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working so hard on somebody else. And they forget to work on

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themselves, right? I always use this analogy, people come from

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work or tire or they had a bad day, they come home, they take

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it out, they take that anger on their spouse, and now that

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creates a very unhealthy relationship, or they're just

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simply tired, and they come home. And then the first thing

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they do is they sit on the couch, watch TV, and you know,

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they forget to do anything else, right. And I say don't do that,

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right. And my my advice to anyone is, it doesn't matter how

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hard of a day it is, still come back in and work on yourself.

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When I was working for that corporate job, I would leave my

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you know, work 1012 hours, I'll come home, and I'll work on my

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real estate business. And I constantly work on my real

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estate business. That's the reason why I was able to leave

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my corporate job again, I was getting paid over six figures

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really good job. I came home, I will go to sleep every day, on

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one or two a night working on myself. Right? And, and it's not

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just about working on your business is that it's different

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things. are you creating affirmations for you? are you

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creating targets for you? Are you changing the habits? Are you

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changing your you know, how you talk, you know, your physiology,

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the words that you use? Like there's so many different things

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that self learning, right? That to me, that is the basis of

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getting to the next level, and you have to have to definitely

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work on yourself.

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And that's one thing that you just brought up that I don't

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think we mentioned yet but you guys Cesar is also trained in

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neuro linguistic programming as well. So that's a big element to

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what he does and his his mentorship programs and his

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coaching as well. So it kind of brings in all of all of the

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things for you. So if you guys want to hear more of Caesar

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story, you definitely need to check out his book. How You can

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overcome anything, even when the world says no, no. Cesar, where

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can people buy your book? If people want to work with you?

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when can they find you? Where do you hang out the most?

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Yeah, so I mean social media, Facebook Instagram. The best way

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to find me though, is actually you can go to www dot Cesar RSP

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no.com which is really my name CSE are my middle initial SP

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know that COMM And you can find my books, I have that book. I

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also co author another book here, which is pretty good for

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people that want to get into entrepreneurship, my mentoring

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program and really anything you can contact me directly there

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and you can actually book a time with me if you want to through

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that website. And anything that I have going on you can actually

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find it.

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Okay, awesome. And I will put the link to that in the

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description down below. So if you guys want to hear more from

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Cesar, make sure to check that out. Thank you so much, Cesar

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for coming on today. It was such a blessing. And you're awesome.

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Thank you so much for having me. I'm very very grateful to have

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you. So thanks so much.

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