Episode 17

The Womanifester, Katie J

Today I have with me the Womanifestor herself, Katie J! Katie helps spiritual women manifest their desires without the struggle of limiting beliefs, doubt, and fear! We dive into the power of shadow work, healing and it's involvement in the manifestation process, and so much more!

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Transcript
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It took me a while to fully make that leap and trust that if I

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put all of my energy and love into the creation of a business

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that would serve the world that it would actually work and that

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it would actually provide enough for me to live the lifestyle

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that I want to live.

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Hello, fellow Earthlings. Welcome to the becoming the big

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me podcast. I'm your host, Djemilah, Birnie. And together,

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we will be stepping into our highest potential, exploring all

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things mind, body, and soul. With justice, major business,

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you're a spiritual badass solopreneur and a warrior for

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change, you're ready to expand your impact and leave your old

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self behind in order to raise your vibration so that you can

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positively influence your business, your community, and

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ultimately, the world. Without further ado, let's dive right

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into it. I have an amazing woman here with me today, Katie J. She

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helps spiritual women manifest their desires without the

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struggle of limiting beliefs, doubt and fear. And I am so

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excited. We chatted a little bit before and I know you guys are

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going to love this episode. Hey, Katie, how are you doing today?

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I am doing wonderful. jameelah. Thank you so much for having me.

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I am so blessed that we got connected on Facebook. I really

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am excited for this chat. So let's just dive right in. And

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let's just kind of talk about your story. What like you are it

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have this amazing business right now where you help women really

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overcome those limiting beliefs and with your manifestation

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circles. Now. Can you bring me back to the beginning of your

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entrepreneurship journey? were you working in a nine to five

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before? How did you kind of get to where you are?

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Yeah, so I was working a nine to five, my entrepreneurship

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journey. I would actually, you know it, my entrepreneurship

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journey was a part of my greater spiritual journey, I would say,

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which started back in 2015. I remained in the corporate world

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for about a month after my first spiritual awakening. And then I

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shifted to working at retreat centers. And I was working at a

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retreat center outside of Austin, Texas, and living with a

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woman who ran her own online coaching business coaching

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women, women's fitness. And I was just so inspired by how much

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energy she put into her business. And I was so just

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taken aback by the results that her clients were getting over

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online space entirely. And in 2017, I went to Peru, and was

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sitting in this Plaza, and connected to Wi Fi, and fully

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realizing that I could do everything that I do from my

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desk, at the retreat center, from anywhere in the world and

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realize that there was this wide open possibility for my life and

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what I could create, if I set my mind to it. So from then on,

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things started happening, I was introduced to people who started

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planting ideas in my head and started to tell me to look into

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this type of business or that type of business. And I was all

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over the place, jumping around in all different sorts of online

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spaces that I had no business, like drop shipping, and all

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sorts of things that were just like felt really unaligned. And

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I just kept searching and searching and searching and I

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hired coaches and industry experts to help me kind of

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figure out where I should be in this online space if I could be

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at all. And it took me it took me a while to fully make that

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leap and trust that if I put all of my energy and love into the

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creation of a business that would serve the world, that it

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would actually work and that it would actually provide enough

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for me to live the lifestyle that I want to live and support

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my boxer puppy. He's five he's not actually a puppy. He's the

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only thing I have to support right now. You know. We don't

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need a lot You know, and things just started slowly opening up

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for me, I tried things I tried courses I tried, meaning

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launching and leading courses, I tried one on one coaching, I

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tried group programs, I tried all different sorts of things,

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just figure out what felt good. And from each time that I tried

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something new in my business, I took what worked and I let go of

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what didn't work. And I took what worked and I let go, what

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didn't work in everything that I made, I invested back into my

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business and back into the the parts of my business that were

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helping it to grow, helping it to connect with clients helping

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to sign clients. And that included a lot of coaching, a

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lot of mentorship, and getting that one on one support was

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really crucial for me in my journey.

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So what how So from what you're saying it sounds like there was

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kind of a lot of failure on your road to where you are now. So

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can you kind of dive into that a little bit. Um, and how you took

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that failure at that time, how you take failure now and because

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I know that a lot of entrepreneurs out there people

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who are, you know, striving to create something that very

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discouraged when that initial idea doesn't work the way that

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they pictured it, you're gonna dive into that aspect a little

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bit.

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Yeah, it might have a lot to do with the fact that what I am

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coaching, what I am holding space for, and teaching is

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manifesting, which, if anyone who's died, who has dove into

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the world of manifesting, has probably realized that it's

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mostly a fancy word for healing. And so and then a lot of that

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healing is, we were required to look at that failure and to look

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at those stories that we were telling ourselves that made it

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so that that failure happened, or, or that there were parts of

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that situation that just didn't feel good. And I can dive into

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more details like I was, I remember launching a course that

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I just did not feel aligned with. And I did it anyway,

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because I knew that there was something to learn about the

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launch process. And actually, I didn't know that my business

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coach told me that I'm not gonna didn't like, that was my idea.

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She was like, you should continue, go all the way through

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the launch process. So you can figure out what you do and don't

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like. And what I didn't like, was the negative self chatter

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that came up during it, it was less about, oh, I don't want to

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write this email sequence, or Oh, I don't want to promote

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myself on Instagram, because I gotten really comfortable doing

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that, at that point. It was just this, you know, this product

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doesn't feel aligned. And so therefore, I'm going to be open

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to the guidance for what is the next product that that maybe is

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more aligned, because I'm seeing, I'm seeing her launch a

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course and doing really, really well. And I'm seeing him launch

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a course and do really, really well. So surely, I should be

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doing courses too. But when you actually go through that

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process, which I'm really glad that I did, I was able to

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realize like it wasn't the launch or any of those nuances.

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It was like the actual product. So Okay, next launch, or at

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least between those two launches, leaving my really

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leaning into my spiritual practices and inner guidance and

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asking, like, what is it that I should be offering? And what is

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it that's gonna feel really, really, really aligned?

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So do you have any tips for people who it's I get these

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questions all the time, like, How do I know? What is my inner

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guidance? How do I know? What's my intuition speaking? And

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what's maybe just my ego or my limiting beliefs speaking? So do

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you have any tips for how to kind of discern between those

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voices?

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Oh, absolutely. So the best way that I like to really think

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about it is just this old school cartoons where there's like a

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devil on the shoulder, and an angel on the shoulder. And

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that's a little dramatic, right? We don't want to say that the

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ego is the devil because our ego is not the devil. The ego is not

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the is not bad, right? our ego has is here to keep us alive and

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keep us safe. And that's great and good and we need it. But

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it's not here to allow us to step outside of our comfort zone

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or to really flourish in life and thrive and ask for and

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receive a life that we've never lived before. Right That's not

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the egos job And so the ego will always sound like fear. It will

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always sound like fear, like scarcity, like not enough, like

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guilt, like shame, you know, that's that voice. If it sounds

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like that, then it's gonna be the ego. But if it sounds like

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it's coming from a place of love, then it's your higher

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self, then it's your inner guidance, then it's your

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intuition. Because your inner guidance doesn't say, get off

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this plane, it's gonna explode. Like, that's not how it guides

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you, it will just say, you know, what, I think you should cancel

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that flight. You know, well, in advance, it will guide you well

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in advance of those things. Like, that's the beauty of

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trusting it is, it feels like love. Always. And that's, that's

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the beauty of, of the distinction, too, is that we all

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we know that what that feels like in our bodies.

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Yeah. And I also feel like the ego is kind of more just like,

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looking for attention. Like, it's kind of like jumping up,

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like, look at me, it can be loud, and it can be very

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obnoxious. Whereas that inner guidance is not necessarily so

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loud. It's not so noxious, but it's steady. It's just that

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consistent feeling over time. That's like, hey.

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Yeah, exactly. So I'm in a place in my life right now, where I'm

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like, okay, you know, despite the fact that everything that's

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going on with Coronavirus, and stuff, like, I really can't,

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could live anywhere that I wanted to. And I've realized

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that and I've kind of been feeling the need to move but not

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know where to go. And so I've just been, like, releasing that

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question and asking for guidance. And I have noticed

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that Ooh, ooh, ooh, you know, like, kind of popping up here

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and there, and I'm just, okay. Well, I see you, you know what,

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I'm not gonna make any decisions yet. And then a few days later,

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oh, oh, I'm still here telling you to go here.

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That's so funny that you bring that up, because that's actually

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how we landed in Arizona is we I had been feeling for a while,

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like, we needed to move we needed, you know, something to

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happen. And so I started asking for signs, and just all kinds of

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crazy stuff just started happening. Like, there was a

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farmers market that we used to go to all the time. It's our

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favorite activity we did every Saturday. And we got kicked out

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of the farmers market, because I had my purse in my wagon. And

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the lady told me, I needed to carry my purse because someone

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was going to steal it. And I told her, oh, that's okay. My

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child's also in my way. And she like, told us that we weren't

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allowed to come back to the farmers market. And I was like,

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This is the weirdest situation I've ever had in my entire life.

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So I started reflecting on it. And I had this like, download,

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like, Oh, this is one of those signs that you're asking for.

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Like, it doesn't make any logical sense. This is one of

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those things that you're asking for. And then I don't know if

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you're into Angel numbers or anything like that. But these

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numbers just kept appearing. And that was when I first got into

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Angel numbers. I'd never looked up a number before. For some

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reason, my intuition was like, look it up. And he was like, you

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need to move right now. And I was like, Oh,

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okay.

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So I love that because that's, yeah, that's exactly how we

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ended up here. It was just over time consistently, kind of

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seeing these signs and asking for more confirmation, and then

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finally just taking that leap and be like, okay, I hear you.

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We're going.

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Yeah, and so many people are scared that they're gonna miss

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the sign. You know, they're like, what if I missed it? Like,

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what if that was it? It's like, you're gonna get it? Yeah,

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you're in like, safe loving hands. Think of it that.

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Exactly. And for me, like, because I've definitely been in

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that point, I'm sure you have as well. where like, was that a

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sign? Is that a sign? Oh, no. And how does it ask for more?

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Like, if you don't ask, you know, like, if you need

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clarification, like, just be like, Hey, what's that assigned?

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Can you give me another sign to confirm? Like, there's nothing

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wrong with just point blank asking that?

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Yes, exactly. I met this very witchy woman in Costa Rica one

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time who was telling me all about her games that she was

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playing with the universe. And she was like, I asked for a

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coconut yesterday, and I got to Oh,

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do you? That's a great point there. Do you do gamification

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with your life? You know,

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it's funny. It's something I just got started doing, which is

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crazy because I teach manifestation. So you would

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think that that'd be something that I mean, now. It's something

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that I'm playing with and I'm encouraging my clients To play

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with to, but like the other day, or not the other day, it was a

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month ago, April 1 that I moved into this current apartment. And

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that weekend, I said, I want flowers from flowers, you know.

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And then the day that I moved in to my, this house, my landlord

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was planting flowers all in her garden beds. And I was like,

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Yeah, not how I had imagined them, but I'll take it, you

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know?

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I love that. Yeah, you. Um, it's something that I'm just now

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starting to get into as well. I have. I mean, I have, I guess

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I've kind of been doing it for a while I just didn't realize that

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I was doing it like a big one for me is, when I'm driving. I

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have done this for a while I didn't realize like, I had no

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idea. But I would just think, you know, green light. Like

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whenever I'd be coming up near a green light, I always hit green

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light. And every time that I'm like, consciously driving, and I

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think that like I always hit green lights. And so like, I

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have been trying to incorporate that more into my practice

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religious, I'm taking things a little less seriously, because

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that is definitely something that I personally had struggled

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with. Just over my journey, I have, you know, felt this need

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to rally overcompensate? I guess because I do get a lot of flack

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based on my history and how I've gotten to where I am. And so I

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feel like oh, I need to show up, like extra, you know, business

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like or extra masculine to be able to fit into the marketing

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space. And lately, you know, over I mean, really, over the

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past couple of years, have really been diving into more of

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the flow and the feminine and really bringing in that into my

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business as well. Like I did. I did a a manifestation exercise.

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I don't know if you've heard of the five by

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55.

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manifestation challenge. Yeah, it's, it's a pretty big one.

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And I,

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I decided to try it with with my marketing business. I've done a

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lot of the manifestation stuff with my coaching business, but

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for some reason wasn't transferring it over to my

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marketing business. And so I decided to try it for my

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marketing agency. And then within two weeks, I signed on to

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new like high ticket clients. I was like, Oh, hello.

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Love it.

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It works all around.

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I have never fully committed to the 555 or 333. method. Three,

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like when you write something 33 times for three days, or

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whatever it is. Yeah, okay. Yeah. I've never fully committed

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to it. Maybe I'll give it a try.

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Yeah, you should definitely definitely try it. There have

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been a couple times where I had tried it in the past, but I made

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it to like two days or three days or whatever. I'm starting

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to

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get tired.

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Yeah, so finally I actually

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because of Tick tock,

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so I've been like really into Tick Tock lately. And I decided

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to make this video about the challenge. And I was like, Oh, I

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have to do it now. And because I had that accountability from the

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TIC Tock video, I follow through and then saw these amazing

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results, which was really cool, because then I was able to share

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that with you with Tick Tock. And yeah, that's one of the

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other things look, tell. Tell me about that. Like with coaching,

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like do you feel like that helps keep you accountable for your

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energy and what you're doing as well?

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Oh, absolutely. Yeah. Because, and that's probably the best

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part of it, too, you know, is that I get to show my clients

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what's possible for them, you know, and you can look at that

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and see like, and think of it as a huge weight or responsibility,

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but I think of it I get fires me up, you know, it gets me really

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excited to like, No, I can't shrink back and play small

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because if I were my client, I wouldn't tell them to do you

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know, I would not put up with that. So, you know, situations

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and, you know, we're constantly I think what's funny about the

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555 method and the 333 method and writing things over and over

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again is that I do feel like it's that subconscious Reese

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like it's, it's how we can reset our subconscious mind. And if

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our subconscious mind is thinking about something all the

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time time it's a magnet to it, right? So it's like constantly

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pulling those things in. But what I think a lot of people

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don't realize is that there are so many subconscious things to

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work through that it's the process is really, I mean, the

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process of manifesting and growing and evolving and

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whatever is like it's constant. So for me, having a coaching

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container is that constant support that like that in a

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weird way that I need to be like, yeah, this is a practice

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that we're gonna keep doing and keep evolving, and keep up

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leveling and keep expanding.

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I love that. So on the topic of manifestation, something I hear

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a lot in kind of the manifestation community,

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or people who are trying to learn about manifestation

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is

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they get really discouraged if they're not

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feeling, you know, high vibe or not feeling like they're in this

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really positive space. And they feel like if they feel down

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ever, then like, everything is just going to collapse and it

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can't manifest anymore. What are your thoughts on that?

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Yeah, I run into that belief a lot too, or that misconception

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maybe. So. There is such beauty in experiencing the full

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spectrum of the human emotions. And always, always, always, our

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emotions are like, what are they? What are they really,

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they're a biochemical release in the body. What releases those

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biochemicals, those hormones that make us feel the emotion of

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sadness, or feel the emotion of anger, feel the emotion of

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guilt, or shame. It's a thought, it's a thought that triggers

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that right? So what thoughts are making me feel these emotions,

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and we were talking before we hit record on Shadow Work, and

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that's what Shadow Work is, is looking at those thoughts that

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triggered those emotions. And not saying I'm bad for having

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those thoughts, I shouldn't have those thoughts. I'm a strong

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woman, there's no way I should be feeling these emotions, you

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know, I, I, that goes through my mind all the time. Instead, you

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just look at them and observe them, and maybe even crazy, it's

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gonna sound crazy. But imagine that they are your inner child,

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imagine that they are your inner roommate, imagine that they're

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the voice, excuse me of your grandmother, right? or wherever

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that nagging, or that limiting belief or that self conscious

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thought came from. And really taking that emotion, taking that

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thought, taking that situation, whatever is triggering you, and

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separating it from you, and just allowing yourself to experience

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that to learn from it, to grow from it, to evaluate it, to

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integrate it. And what I'm talking about is, is the Shadow

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Work process that I kind of walk my clients through, and really

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taking those feelings that don't feel good, those thoughts that

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don't feel good, and integrating them into our path as something

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that I'm debating how far I should go into this. So maybe I

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should give an example. Like, okay, for what's going on in my

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life and example from my life right now, is I need to get some

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dental work done. I don't have health insurance, I because I'm

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a full time entrepreneur. And I just haven't gotten to that

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point yet where I've gotten myself some health insurance,

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that would probably even cover what it is that I need done. And

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so I keep telling myself this story, this limiting belief that

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I can't afford to get the dental work done that I need to or it's

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going to, you know, put me in some sort of financial stress.

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And so I put it off, I put it off and I'm in pain, it hurts to

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chew and I'm like, Wait a second, like, this is not me

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living my best life, right? Like, I'm experiencing something

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that does not feel good. And that is kind of perpetuated in

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my reality by the pain, the physical pain, but it's all the

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root of it's just like my limiting belief. So I look at

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that limiting belief. And I'm like, Where's this coming from?

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Like, where is this? I don't have enough or like scarcity

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mindset coming from because the truth is like I do have enough

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You know, if I actually looked at my bank account, like I have

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plenty To cover this and going through the process of like,

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shedding light on, whatever it is that's making you feel like

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shit, whatever it is that making you feel, or that that is caught

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that triggering those thoughts that's triggering those emotions

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that's allowing you to experience that low vibration,

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emotion and doing the work. Like that's the work of manifesting

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is like, yes, experience those emotions, experienced them to

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their fullest, but don't experience them for the rest of

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your life, like, do the processing now, and look at them

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shine light on them, there's probably going to need to be

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some sort of forgiveness involved other forgiveness of

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others forgiveness of self, and then some loving compassion for

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self love and compassion for others. And people. I mean, when

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I first heard about this process, and when I was first

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taken through this process with my mentor, I was like, this

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seems like is that all I have to do? You know, is that is that

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it? You know, and that issue, that

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thing that's holding you back, that limiting belief, that

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unhelpful story, that timeline that's been, you know, projected

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onto you by others in your life. All of that, if you just look at

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it, and you realize, like, Wait a second, I don't have to

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identify with that I don't have to carry that anymore. I don't

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have to, you know, let that be my story, I can actually create

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a new story and a new paradigm for my life and leaning into

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that. So it's a process of all of it, of experiencing those low

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vibe emotions, so that you can return to your natural state of

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experiencing love and experiencing that compassion

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that exists within all of us.

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Yeah, so really, using those kind of bad those, I don't like

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to say bad. But those feelings that are can be

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compartmentalised as bad. Has the learning experiences like

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oh, this isn't maybe something I should dig into a little bit

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more, this is something I should explore more like, why is this

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coming up? That's, I mean, I think you really hit the nail on

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the head with that one, that's really how you can use those

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feelings, those low vibe emotions, to manifest because

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when you actually accept them, that's the other thing is accept

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those feelings, you set it at the beginning, we are human, we

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are here to have a human experience. And part of being

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human part of the human experience, is feeling those

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things is feeling those emotions, and so being able to

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accept them and be like, Okay, I see you, I feel, you know, why

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are you here. And using that as a trigger, to instead of

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downward spiral, but using that as a trigger to learn more and

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to explore

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more.

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Absolutely, and the only reason why it's called Shadow Work, or

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why those things are in the shadow, meaning those emotions

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or topics or relationships that we don't want to discuss, like

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they're only in the shadow because we don't want to discuss

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them. Because we keep pushing them further and further down.

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But the issue is that they're still there, they're still in

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your energy body, and there's, you will probably find that they

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will continue to affect your manifestations until you shine

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light on them.

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Yeah, one of the kind of images that I like to use for that is

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if you're thinking about a dark cave, it's completely black put

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away, you can't see anything, but if you just like the tiniest

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little light, if you just like one little tea light candle in

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there, you're going to create massive illumination, in this

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case in this cave. And so what you're saying is when you accept

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and kind of shine that light on that shadow, you really kind of

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open, open it up and it just even just diving into it a

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little bit is going to help expand more and more. When you

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think about like the layers like I know for me in my journey,

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like there have been lots of things where I dive into and

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emotions and

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then I

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clear them and then later on they start coming up again when

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I have reached like another level. What do you think about

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kind of that? Yeah, absolutely. I'm actually reading this book

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called do less by Kate Northrup, and it's all about cycle

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sinking, so sinking your life and business With your menstrual

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cycle, and yeah, I'm loving it so far. And one of the things

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that she talks about, and she has this whole diagram, so you

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can imagine, like, you know, an upward slope, but on this upward

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slope are these loops. And the loops kind of signify our cycle,

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whether it's a menstrual cycle, the seasons, you know, however

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you want to think about it, the moon cycles. And as we go up,

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you know, where we're evolving, we're doing our shadow work,

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we're kind of processing and integrating those that the

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shadows and the things that don't no longer service. But

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yeah, they're going to come up again. But you're going to be at

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a higher consciousness at that point, and able to look at it

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and say, Oh, yeah, there's that there's that daddy issue again,

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or whatever it is, say, like, wow, I can either allow this to

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impact my decision and make a decision out of fear, or I can

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make a decision out of love. And just just because it's there,

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again, doesn't mean that it, you're starting from scratch,

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it's just, you're human, it's not gonna, you know, you're not

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a computer that we can just completely wipe clean, you don't

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want that. Gonna take some layers, I think that's a really

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great way to visualize it.

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Yeah, and like, you know, when you are coming back to it from

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that higher level of consciousness, like you can, you

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can heal it even deeper, you know, like, I feel like we can

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only heal based on our current level of understanding. And as

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we continue to grow, some things, you know, might come

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back up because we didn't fully get all the way to the core,

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because we just weren't there yet.

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Totally or like, as your as you progress on your journey and

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connection, more and more of the natural loving essence within

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you, you tap into more and more forgiveness. So maybe you've

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forgiven that person, you forgiven that person, you're

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like, I can release you, you know, you haven't like really

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forgiven them to the point where you feel that you can look back

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on that situation and only feel love for them and only feel

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compassion for where they were in their journey and the tools

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that they had access to at the time. Ah,

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man, I absolutely love all of this. Now, we were running,

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running on time here. So before we close out, I just want had a

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couple more questions for you. First, what is one thing that

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you're kind of struggling with in your business? And then what

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is one thing that you're super excited about in your business

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right now?

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Hmm.

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I love the this question. Because two questions. So one

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thing I am struggling with in my business I actually mentioned

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before is the cycle sinking. I my cycle has been kind of all

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over the place recently, and I'm taking a year long course and I

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are VEDA. To learn more about this, I am actively tracking it

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and doing my best to because when the whole purpose of cycle

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seeking is that you don't do much in your business when

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you're menstruating. Right, so if you can't if you don't know

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when you're going to menstruate, how do you plan out your and so

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I think maybe that brings up the larger issue is just the

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planning of my business. Like, I know what I need, you know, I I

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for the first time ever jameelah for the first time ever. for

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June, I wrote out every single day what I need to do my

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business and it feels so good, but that's what I've been

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struggling with. It's just that like, organization around the

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lifestyle that I want to lead chillon when I'm, you know, not

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feeling like engaging as much during that time of the month,

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but also just being able to show up in a way that serves my

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clients because I'm organized and fully planned out and

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feeling present and ready to go.

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I love that. And then what are you currently most excited about

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in your business? Yeah, I

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am most excited about my women's circles. So like I mentioned

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before, I've been all over the place when it comes to my

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offerings for the world and just trying to figure out what how I

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can serve best really with with my background and talents and

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gifts and passions. And these women's circles that I'm

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wrapping up the first round right now and the container that

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I've created has transformed these women's lives and it's

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blowing my damn mind. And I'm loving it. And I can't wait to

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launch the next round in June. And the next round after that in

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September, like I told you, I'm planning things out. So these

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women's circles there, it's an eight week program. And we

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basically learn how to leverage the power of collective

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manifestation through sisterhood. And we go through

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the manifestation process, and we talk about really hard

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topics, we do Shadow Work together, we hold space for one

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another. And we encourage and uplift one another. And it's

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been just been this beautiful support group for spiritual

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women online. So that's what I'm most excited about.

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That sounds super exciting. You made me excited just listening

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to you talk about it. That's how you know that it's an aligned

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and aligned offer right there. So Katie, where can people find

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you? Where do you hang out?

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Yeah, so

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I hang out mostly on Instagram. At with manifestor. So that's

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WMANI F, E s, t e r, and that same word, well, manifester is

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my website to win manifester.com. So that's where

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all the info is. But I mostly keep that up to date, but I hang

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out on Instagram daily.

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Okay, awesome. Oh, you guys. I will put the links on to her

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website and to her Instagram page in the show notes, so make

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sure to check there and check her out and give her some love.

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If you guys enjoyed this episode and found value in this episode,

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which I know that you will. This is amazing conversation with

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Katie j here. Make sure to share leave us a review tag Katie, tag

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me. Let us know what your biggest takeaway was. And you

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know what, Katie, thank you so much for being on. I really

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appreciated having your presence here today.

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Absolutely. Thank you for having me. Appreciate

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it.

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