Episode 1

Addiction, Teen Pregnancy, and Spiritual Awakening

We all have a story to tell- a past that makes us who we are. In this inaugural episode of the Becoming the Big Me podcast I share with you mine. From drug addiction and teen motherhood to building a business and my spiritual awakening. I have walked through the depths of hell and made it to the other side. This episode will give you a sneak peek into my journey and what brought me to be the woman, mom, and business owner I am today.

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Hi! I am your host Djemilah Birnie of www.becomingthebigme.com . I have been building businesses online since the age of 17. When I discovered the power that we hold within our own minds my world truly began to change.

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I was not going to be another statistic. My daughter was not

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going to be another statistic. I knew that I had to do everything

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in my power to create something larger to create something

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better to make a life worth living for the both of us.

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Hello, fellow Earthlings. Welcome to the becoming the big

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me podcast. I'm your host,

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Djemilah, Birnie. And together, we will be stepping

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into our highest potential, exploring all things mind,

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body, and soul. With justice, major business,

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you're a spiritual badass solopreneur and a warrior for

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change, you're ready to expand your impact and leave your old

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self behind in order to raise your vibration so that you can

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positively influence your business, your community, and

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ultimately,

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the world.

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Without further ado, let's dive right into it.

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Hello, Hello,

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I am so excited to have you here joining me today for the first

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episode. Yes. Now, this has been a long time coming. And it has

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been something that has been on my heart for a year now and

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my

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head, my mind my limiting beliefs. I allowed them to hold

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me back from starting, but no longer you were going where I'm

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diving in. And I'm so excited to be on this journey. And I am so

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excited to bring you along with me on this journey. Now, this

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podcast is going to be a combination of interviews with

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lots of amazing, amazing beautiful solopreneurs

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entrepreneurs and spiritual minded individuals and a

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collection of monologues that I will be sharing with you just

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about all encompassing mind, body, soul, and just a little

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bit of business. I am an entrepreneur, I am a business

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owner, a solopreneur, a creative a visionary, and a multi

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passionate being. And I can't wait to dive in to all of these

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topics. to really help you grow and develop into your highest

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self and step into the human being a you are meant to be the

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person that you were put on this planet to be. Now as I start

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this podcast, I find it fitting for this first episode, to be a

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place where I can share my story. We all have a story, a

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pass that makes us

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who we are. And this this is mine. I grew up in a broken

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home,

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as many of us do these days, bouncing back from Parent to

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Parent,

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never really having a sense of home or making really strong

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bonds with friends

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and connections.

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as a child, I never really realized how it affected me.

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But it did

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it it affected me greatly. So much so that by the age of 13 I

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found myself

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drinking

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every single day in class in my coffee cup.

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Not to be cool not

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to share with others. In fact, nobody even knew it was just my

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way of dealing with my pain of being able to feel okay. By the

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age of 14 I was doing lines of ketamine in the bathroom off my

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math book. And before I knew it, my drug problem just continued

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to escalate.

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I find myself I found myself

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doing anything really, that I could get my hands on. At the

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age of 18 I mean, by the age of 16, I was 18, barely. By the

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time that my daughter was born, I found myself homeless, living

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in a tent, and a full blown heroin addict. That is also when

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I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, my now six year

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old. That is when everything hit me. I didn't know what I was

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going to do. I didn't know how I was going to move forward. All I

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knew was that where I was, was not okay.

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The man that I was with was not okay. Now, at this point, I had

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absolutely no self worth. I had been beaten down in an abusive

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relationship with a man who is also an addict. When I found out

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I was pregnant, I knew that this child, this being this innocent

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soul, did not deserve the life that I was living. She needed

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more. She didn't do anything. wasn't her fault that her mom

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was a stupid, pathetic loser. So I needed to change. And I needed

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to change real quick cuz baby was coming soon. It was not

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hard. It was not hard to leave that man. It was not hard to get

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out of that situation. But I had to find the strength inside me

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to do it. If I was going to keep that trial. Nobody thought I

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should. And I can see how from the outside looking in. wasn't

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necessarily, you know, the ideal situation wasn't something any

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child should be brought into.

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But you see, what happened

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was that child, she's sparked a fire inside my heart. A fire

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that has kept burning and burning. Since that moment. I

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knew that she had the odds stacked against her. I mean,

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heck, her mom was a freakin drug addict, teen mom.

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I knew

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that if I wanted this kid to have any chance, I was going to

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have to do everything in my power to be there for her in the

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best way possible. I was not going to be another statistic.

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My daughter was not going to be another statistic. I knew that I

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had to do everything in my power to create something larger to

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create something better to make a life worth living for the both

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of us.

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I wanted to give her

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the best start possible. She already had the odds stacked

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against her.

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So I had to

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create something and I had no clue what but I just knew that I

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had to create something that would allow me to stay home with

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her for at least that first year. Everything I had been

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reading was talking all about the importance of breastfeeding

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and the importance of that first year. And I wanted to make that

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happen for her. So paddling, mostly because of the guilt that

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I had inside.

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You see, I didn't even know, I was pregnant until the

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end of my third trimester. I mean, the end of my first

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trimester, not my third.

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The thing is, when you've been using drugs for so long, your

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body changes. And I hadn't had a period in a very long time.

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The only reason

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that I even knew or questioned

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anything at all, was because every time I would try to smoke

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a cigarette, I would throw up. One of my friends said to me,

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You ever thought that you might be pregnant? I was like, no, not

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possible.

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I didn't think

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that I could get pregnant. Because I wasn't having a

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period.

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Silly me.

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I was wrong. Um, but my friend, she insisted. She's like, just

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get a test. Just see. And so she actually bought me a test and I

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ended up taking it and Yep,

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sure enough, I was pregnant.

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But because I had been using, I was using heroin. That whole

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beginning of my pregnancy, I knew that I might have a long

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road ahead. And I had to do what I needed to do. To create a

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better life for this child. I was not going to let people the

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naysayers the haters be right. I wasn't going to let the people

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who told me I should get rid of her be right. So I decided,

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screw you guys. I'm going to create fucking magical last

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life. My daughter and I were gonna have an amazing life. I

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took the little money I had. And YouTube. And I started my first

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business. What was it you might ask? custom organic cloth

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diapers. The funny thing is, when I first decided on my

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product, I had no idea how to sell. Thankfully, in this 21st

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century, we have the blessing of the internet. And I had all the

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information I needed right at my fingertips. So I taught myself

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how to sew on YouTube, started creating drafting patterns and

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gifting them to the other teen moms at my teen moms school and

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the moms in my support groups to have them,

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test them out and give

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me their opinions and get reviews. I ended up finding a

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product that I was happy with. And I was off to the

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races.

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And it was wonderful. It was hard. It was fucking hard. But

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how was he able to create a business off of $50 and my

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phone. I built my business completely online, on Facebook.

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And I was selling all across the United States Do you like all

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over US, Canada and Australia. After two years, I had grown so

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large that I could no longer keep up with demand. And I had

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no clue how to sail, how to scale. I also had an active two

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year old running around getting everything I found myself having

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to stay up all night and so because I could no longer doing

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it doing it during the day. That's when I ended up closing

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my doors. That business served its personal purpose and it was

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time for me to move on. And up we're entering the corporate

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world of sales in the wireless industry. In less than a year, I

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was promoted from a mere sales rep to having my own store.

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After only a couple of months, I had improved the profit of that

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location by over 300%. That's when I realized I knew how to

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build businesses. And I knew how to utilize

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the internet. So I ended up leaving

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that corporate life, once again, for my daughter, I loved my job.

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But I have a full time nanny, and never got to see my kid. I

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was working six days a week commuting in Seattle. And on the

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day, I didn't come in, I was on the phone all day with my

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employees. So once again, it was time for a shift.

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And I shifted. After that,

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I got into a multi level marketing company. And that's

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where I got my

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introduction

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to the personal development world. Now, I still had a very,

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very, very long ways to go. But the seed was being planted. I

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didn't stay with that company for too long. It served its

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purpose. It did what it needed. But I realized that my passion

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was in helping other people's businesses grow. So that's what

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I started to do. I started freelancing, doing all sorts of

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different digital marketing tasks. That's what leads me into

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where I am today. Really, it was the precursor. At this point. I

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was not low whoo, whoo, quantum manifesting goddess. spiritual

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being that I am today. In fact, high was no, were near it. Those

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people drove me insane. My best friend growing up mom was this

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Dario? Typical, whoo, whoo, out there, hippie dippie. lady who

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would wear cowboy boots for a week straight saying, I have to

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wear them. 24 seven, until money comes in. We thought she was

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insane. But the funny thing is, every time she pulled out her

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boots, money came. So I actually had my spiritual awakening, my

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accidental spiritual awakening, about a year and a half ago.

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And it came

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in the form of a near death experience. I mean, it wasn't. I

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don't know if I can say near death, but

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I'll just tell you the story. So I was taking a shower, it was

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late at night, my daughter was asleep in her bed. And as I was

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in the shower,

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the my sound

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went out, my hearing, my sound went out. My hearing faded out,

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and I could no longer hear the water from my shower, hitting

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the floor. And then my vision started creeping in. It was at

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this moment that I knew I was going down. I was about to pass

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out. My whole life started flashing before my eyes. what

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was going to happen? Was my daughter gonna wake up to me

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dead in the shower with no one here. No one to know.

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alone.

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I desperately started to try and get out of the shower. I just

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had to get out of the house. If I could get out of the house.

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Someone would find me and someone would know that she was

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there. Those were the only thoughts going through my head.

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I didn't make it out of the house. I barely made it out of

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the bathroom. When I finally went down for the count

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No,

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I was not I'm still not sure why I passed out. I can only you

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know, give credit to the divine universe for that. Really. I

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know I wasn't passed out for Very long, because when I woke

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up my shower water was still warm.

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But when I woke up, I was not on any,

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in any dimension

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that I had ever experienced before. I could say there was

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rainbows everywhere I could see sounds and hear people's

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thoughts. In short, I felt like I had woken up in a mushroom

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trip. I was freaked out. So much so that I went into the doctor,

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the doctor said I was fine. And I was like, really, because

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there's rainbows all around your head. But I just went along my

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merry way. And continued, I was like, you know what's kind of

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cool. I'm having this ability to influence thoughts and

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conversations with my mind. Weird, never been able to do

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that before I can understand people completely. For the first

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time in my life, my mind was quiet. And I just felt a sense

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of bliss. It was overwhelming, however, because I wasn't sure

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what I was dealing with. Was I crazy, was I insane? Did I need

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to check myself into a mental Institute, I wasn't quite sure.

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I no longer knew what was real and what wasn't had I actually

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died was I in a different place? rehab what was going on. So I

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started begging, I started praying to the universe as a

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crease, make it stop, I can't handle it anymore. So after

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about a month of living in that state,

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it stopped.

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But I was forever changed. I started diving deep into

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spirituality, and the quantum field, I realize that that

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experience happened to me for a reason. I needed to have a

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belief in the energy and the power that we have. That's when

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I started consciously manifesting things in my life.

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And I was able to do it in an instant. Why? Because my belief

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was already there. I had experienced it, I had felt it.

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And it was crazy. Ever since then, I have dedicated myself

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into diving into all things quantum

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spirituality, subconscious programming, and

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raising the vibration and the consciousness of this planet.

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I discovered

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neuro linguistic programming and hypnosis. So I decided, heck,

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let's get trained on this ish. I want to learn how to tap into my

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subconscious program and I want to learn how to help other

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people tap into their subconscious programming, and

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rewire the limiting beliefs that have been holding us back for so

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long.

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We all have infinite

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potential inside of us. We have the power to create anything our

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hearts desires. We are spiritual beings living in a physical

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reality.

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